..thanks. I appreciate your response and her therapist is aware of her behavior as she was seeing her during her divorce. It is the reason that I advocated marriage counciling with her prior therapist 4 months ago. My wife initially agreed and we had about 6 sessions until her behavior was strongly questioned by the therapist and I was accused of validation. ...perhaps I am but then that is why I am scheduled our therapist to look deeper into myself and perhaps understand why I entered into this kind of relationship being previously forwarned.
You're welcome! And thank you for the positive rating and generous bonus. I appreciate it very much.
Relationships can be very complicated, and it is easy to feel hope that the person you are with has changed if their past behavior is questionable. The beginning of a relationship is a new start and therefore is almost always promising. It can be difficult to think that someone you care deeply about can actually hurt you. If it helps, try to see this as about your partner and not you. If she has done this before, then that validates that it is about her and has nothing to do with you. That can be difficult to believe now, but as you work through this, it will get easier.
My best to you,Kate