Still having relationship anxiety. To the point now its starting to effect us both.... Maybe even effect the relationship now with my insecurities with us in general. Always seems to circle back to at the very beginning of the relationship with all the nonsense I found 2 months into the relationship.
Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.
Can you tell me a bit more about how your insecurities are affecting your relationship?
It went on for close to 6 weeks I'd say.... She told me it was an guy she was seeing before me. I had nothing to worry about... That it was over he was this and that. But continued to "be his therapist" was how she put it.
Funny you should say that... She has a horrible relationship with her father and apparently so does her ex/ friend. In time I feel like it has started to erode the relationship. I've tried on multiple occasions to "come clean": and just explain the situation. She disgards and tells me he means nothing to her. During one discussion basically told me "Her past was none of my business" So in a lot of ways I feel I either need to get over it and move on. Or close the door on "us" and move on personally. Not really sure what I want to do....
If she is dismissing your feelings, that is not a good sign. It indicates that she is putting her own feelings first. In a relationship, it is important to put your partner first. If she is not willing to do that, you may want to talk with her about why. Let her know that she is with you and therefore your feelings should matter most to her. If you feel you cannot get a helpful response from her, then you may want to suggest a break from the relationship until she decides if she is willing to commit to you or not.
She's a very selfish individual... Like she's never wrong.. everyone else is. She definitely puts her own feelings first without a doubt. Its funny because I think she's had a problem with this her entire life. In her words "Never been a long term relationship person". Once had a conversation about past relationships lengths and I have been in much longer substantial relationship then she has. So makes complete sense.
I am sorry to hear that. What she is saying to you is not a good sign. It may be up to you to decide if this relationship is going to work for you. She is giving you signs that she is unable to maintain a relationship and if that is not what you want, then you may need to consider moving on.
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