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He may be pushing your buttons with this attention seeking behavior. When people are insecure or coming from an insecure place, they will make accusations out of their own fears. Unless he conquers his demons, it is likely that he will continue this behavior. Even though you have tried counseling before, you can determine if he wants this relationship by offering that you both get help as a couple. You can do this through relationship counseling where hopefully he can resolve what is making him act negatively and how to interact as a couple. He may in addition have poor communication skills and this leads to these heated fights. I would offer to visit a relationship counselor because you both need help getting along then he may be more receptive. If you think that too much damage has been done then you have every right to walk away. You don't have to subject yourself to a negative relationship. Weigh the pros and cons and decide if this is a healthy situation.