Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.
By forum, what do you mean? Are you asking what type of therapy?
No, initially, I was trying to find a forum, not direct help, but ANYTHING that can help would help.
My wife (maybe soon to be ex) has been married twice before. She is my first marraige. We've been together for 12 yrs, married for 8. She gave me 4 step daughters, now ages 20, 26, 28, 29. I gave her a step son, now age 16.
She was molested as a child by her father's brother. Our now 20 yr old daughter was molested by my wife's second husband when she was maybe 10 yrs old. He went to jail and they (daughter/father) have reconciled. I think my daughter has Narcisstic personallity disorder and she and I have had major conflicts, due to her disrepect and the fact my wife won't hold her accountable for her actions. I think my wife has severe guilt over what happened to both herself and our daughter.
Yesterday, she moved out to "work on us" but she moved out with our daughter, now 20 and 2 months pregnant. I think my wife is nest building and protecting our daughter from me while being in denial. I only recently realized she was co dependent with both of her ex husbands, especially the 2nd one, and has replaced him (codependant wise) with our daughter...I believe they have a co dependand relationship.