How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask DrFee Your Own Question

DrFee
DrFee, Psychologist
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 437
Experience:  I help people overcome anxiety and enjoy life again.
66179016
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
DrFee is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Hi, ongoing but stabilsed nasty custody situation.in therapy

Resolved Question:

Hi, ongoing but stabilsed nasty custody situation.in therapy 3 years out for about a year now.the
diagnosis for court...it is a situational stressor there is no underlying diagnosis for a parent primary caregiver taken from the child,
and custody has been to a opposing party" who only cares about him playing the game"" will accuse him of anything".... so I have delt with the anxiety of having my daughter with her mother and the above but I recentl filled out an extensive questionaire on partner agression and found myself keening ,crying and distraught to the point where I called a help line.
Is it possible in focusing therapy on dealing with my emotional reactions to my daughters situation I completly have missed any healing for myself personaly with what happend to me as opposed to how I felt%2
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  DrFee replied 2 years ago.
Hello! Please remember that my response is for information only, we are not establishing a therapeutic relationship.

It sounds like you it's been a very tough time. I'm wondering if you have undergone a 730 Custody evaluation --where each parent and the family undergo extensive interviews, observations, testing, and the assessing party (usually a Psychologist) makes recommendations for custody arrangements?

Regardless, you might want to talk to this Psychologist, Dr. Daniel Rybicki, http://www.danielrybicki.com/ about your case. He is north of Los Angeles, and could give you advice or direction.

As far as your question about "healing" goes, it's virtually impossible to heal while one is in the midst of an unresolved stressful situation, which seems to describe your last three years. It sounds like you are in "survival," mode right now, which is painful and difficult. I'm sorry that this is your current situation with you --and I'm sure it's painful for you child as well.

Regards,
Dr. Fee
DrFee, Psychologist
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 437
Experience: I help people overcome anxiety and enjoy life again.
DrFee and 2 other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you
Customer: replied 2 years ago.


Thanks...yes on the 730..... i had no issues they didnt test the mother,,,at the time I was not a citizen......


The healing thing is the issue I now understand what I belive has been going on and reason for the constant antagionisation of myself through use of my daughter......In itself I can work to compartmentalise the two area of suffering and pehaps undrstand myown fellings from what went on better ..get some therapy on that aspect...thanks also for the recomendation....ps I goy cancer during this beat it three years ago and won the moveaway representing myself 3 days in tral against a Beverly hill law frim so.....perhaps some acknowledgent of that to my self would help..

Expert:  DrFee replied 2 years ago.

Wow -- you sure have been through a LOT. Patience and grace are always good things for us to apply to ourselves.

I'm not an expert on the 730, BUT it does not sound right to only test you and not the mother. That would be a good issue to bring up with Dr. Rybicki, he also evaluates those evaluations (if that makes sense). In other words, it doesn't have to be the end of the road on your 730.

I hope that you get to see your daughter (that isn't clear to me how much contact that you have) --you both need the contact and love of each other!

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
< Last | Next >
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
  • I thank-you so much! It really helped to have this information and confirmation. We will watch her carefully and get her in for the examination and US right away if things do not improve. God bless you as well! Claudia Albuquerque, NM
  • Outstanding response time less than 6 minutes. Answered the question professionally and with a great deal of compassion. Kevin Beaverton, OR
  • Suggested diagnosis was what I hoped and will take this info to my doctor's appointment next week.
    I feel better already! Thank you.
    Elanor Tracy, CA
  • Thank you to the Physician who answered my question today. The answer was far more informative than what I got from the Physicians I saw in person for my problem. Julie Lockesburg, AR
  • You have been more help than you know. I seriously don't know what my sisters situation would be today if you had not gone above and beyond just answering my questions. John and Stefanie Tucson, AZ
  • I have been dealing with an extremely serious health crisis for over three years, and one your physicians asked me more questions, gave me more answers and encouragement than a dozen different doctors who have been treating me!! Janet V Phoenix, AZ
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/Dr.Keane/2013-8-20_204325_drkeane.64x64.jpg Dr. Keane's Avatar

    Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    5024
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC's Avatar

    Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    3733
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/DrAkiraOlsen/2012-2-20_746_AkiraADpicmain.64x64.jpg Dr. Olsen's Avatar

    Dr. Olsen

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2336
    PsyD Psychologist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/norriem/2009-5-27_134249_nm.jpg Norman M.'s Avatar

    Norman M.

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2193
    UK trained in hypnotherapy, counselling and psychotherapy and have been in private practice. ADHP(NC), DEHP(NC), UKCP Registered and ECP.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/PsychologyProf/2010-07-15_171248_logos060400409.jpg Dr. Michael's Avatar

    Dr. Michael

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2177
    Licensed Ph.D. Clinical Health Psychology with 30 years of experience in private practive and as a clinical psychology university professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KURTEMMERLING/2010-07-23_215531_just_ask_picture1.jpg Steven Olsen's Avatar

    Steven Olsen

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1727
    More than twenty years of expertise in counseling, psychological diagnosis and education
 
 
 
Chat Now With A Mental Health Professional
DrFee
DrFee
Mental Health Professional
437 Satisfied Customers
I help people overcome anxiety and enjoy life again.