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Yes I am
Yes, and how?
Why do I feel this way? It's feels like a rejection.
This I understand. When I tried to talk to him more about my feelings of rejection, he just said we shouldn't talk about previous relationships.
We are great communicators in general. Our conflict resolution is strong. But I have never felt so heart broken.
Yes it has upset me. Is it normal for me to feel inadequate now?
What are the words I can use so he can hear me differently? I would like some specifics.
Is it appropriate for me to tell him that what he said hurt me because I feel that it has trivialized how I perceive our intimacy?
Ahh, this is the issue. He will not apologize for this. It is how he feels. He is resolute that all his sex has been amazing. And that we aren't different in this way. And this is the part I cannot get past. I thought it was special and I have learned it is his normal. Now what?
I feel like I have to let it go, but it is terribly painful still.
Thank you for this empathetic advice and input. This- I can work with. I hadn't been able to nail down what it was that was bothering me so much. But you have put it aptly with your observation about his response being about him and his sexual prowess and not us. That is what hurts. I appreciate your response. It is quite helpful.