We have only been married a few short months and now he's left me. He says he thinks the marriage was a big mistake, too much responsibilities he was not ready for and now he says he doesn't feel the same way he once did for me. We have been together 7 years and only got married this year. What do you suggest I do? Can I try to talk to him...or should I leave him alone, and wait till he comes back to me? Which I don't think he will... :(
Also want to mention that before his moving out, we had a huge confrontation in front of his family, my brother and his 2 female cousins. See...his cousins (who are fairly close to me, as friends) came to me to talk to me about my husband (their cousin). They told me things he's done, like 1 month prior to our being wed....they say he had sex with another woman while in cancun and they said that when he was at a club he tried to hit-on their friend and then got into a fight with some guy and got thrown out of that club. I confronted him with all that his cousins told me about him and went a little crazy, saying things I didn't mean ...such as I hated him and how could he have done that to me and I could never trust him again and that I wanted him to get out. He denied most of it and wanted to literally 'kill' his cousins...then he stormed out of the house and hasn't returned since, (nor does he ever want to come back). He says it's over and he's ashamed and can't face me, still thinks the marriage was a huge mistake and wants out of it. Wants us to go our separate ways.
but I don't want to live without him...I will not live without him, my body will shut down. I can't face the embarrassment with family and friends and ....I don't want to live, if he leaves me forever. :*(
My name was Jen...if you can't even remember or copy my name (right), then how do I know you're giving me good advice?
I honestly don't believe your contradictory replies were worth the $35 I sent you. I mean, first you replied saying leave him ...he's no good and then when you realized I might hate myself or do something stupid, you replied 'go after him' . I mean which do you really think I should be doing? And why are you just saying what I want to hear rather than being honest and telling me what's up with what's going on?
I'm now more messed up if anything....