it could have been court ordered, but i didn't want to go that route, i didn't want to embarres my family, we live in very very small community. now i am frustrated that he wants to come back into our lives
without getting help. he is a marine and grew up with a father who spanked, hit, embarresed him as punishment. He says he knows it is wrong and now he can stop. but i dont know how that works/
he doesn't think a therapist can help him
he thinks he can read a book and just walk away when he starts to feel out of control
if he could do that we wouldn't be here a second time
is there a particular type of therapist he should see?
i am worried that if he doesn't get immediate result with therapist he won't go back. like it needs to be the right fit and someone he feels can/will help him, otherwise i will get the 'see i told you so' this won't work for me excuse....so while i have your ear, can you recommend what to do if that is the case
so I will approach this with the attitude of you promised you would go and get help in order to keep our family together, here is a therapist recommended by the VA that deals with trauma, please try it for 10-12 sessions.
thanks for your help