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Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.It sounds like you may have a self confidence issue. It is common for people to feel confident about who they are at work because that is the area of their life they feel they understand the best. The rules are clear cut, the boundaries and the focus is all known. But outside of work, all of those things are an unknown. If you have had any issues in the past like abuse either emotional, physical or sexual, it could affect you as an adult and also explain your feelings about being in a relationship with a man. Also, if you have ever experienced a trauma or loss, that can affect your ability to relate to others as well. You may also want to consider that outside of work, you relate to others as you related in your family as a child. People are often set in roles and their expressions of themselves mimic their roles in their family. So if you were in a family where decisions were made for you or you were taught to question your own judgments, then you may carry that with you even as an adult and relate to the world in that way.It may help you to consider therapy. Talking to a therapist can help you to uncover the reasons why you feel as you do in your relationships, about men and in general. When you can get to the root, you can resolve it. And since you are able to be confident in your work, then it is just a matter of finding out why your personal life is different for you. To find a therapist, talk with your doctor. Or you can search on line in your area. On line counseling is also an option that is becoming more popular.You can also learn more about building confidence through self help. Here are some resources:http://www.counselingcenter.illinois.edu/?page_id=191 Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick FanningI hope this has helped you,Kate
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Regarding relationships with men, may the problem, also be related to woman's psychological initiation? I have a feeling that I would also need an authorization/approval from my parents and, in particular, from my mother to start a relationship. Otherwise, I would be doing something wrong.