My husband has a roving eye for potential females and this holiday we went with his sister, brother in-law, 7 year old nephew and 13 year old niece to a summer holiday where I noticed he decided to regard his 13 year old niece as this occasion's flirt object. I immediately noticed his positively changed behaviour toward his niece, as in previous years he made both the niece and nephew cry for calling them annoying. His behaviour towards his brother-in law changed also positively because in previous year that brother in law was just the stingy old twat to be ignored. I decided to wait and see if my findings were justified. Unfortunately they were. He gave her the most attention and she was happy about this acknowledgment because she normally is being ignored, especially when the pretty daughter of my husband is around. First night, we were sitting in the balcony and the two kids were playing in their rooms. My husband suddenly asked where is X (his niece)? We looked wondering at him why he would ask. He made up some silly excuse. Another night, we all were playing Uno. His niece was sitting further away from him but he was all about her game and while she was complaining to her dad about not getting any help during the game, my husband in whispered to her, like one would do a potential flirt, that he cannot help her from where he sits. First 2 days, my husband who doesnt like swimming would not get out of the swimming pool, obviously with his niece so that even her father would make a joke about. The moment X and I go to the pool you are around, he would say. I began getting convinced that something I would never dream of would happen. His niece would enjoy my husbands attention, and seemed to be reiterating this attention, she certainly is not used to it. She would sit legs apart in front of him, while my husband would try to hide his erections. At the same time my husband would be mirroring the behaviour of his niece. Like complaining about the salty water, ordering what she orders- although he HATES salad, and trying to appear like a boy by drinking coke. He would suggest plans that would involve her wishes like she wanted to the rooftop to see the moon and he would suggest similar activities. In previous years my husband would not even want to join family trips and would volunteer to stay home, while I was taking his family out. When I asked him, what we both, him and I should do one evening, he would protest and tell we do what EVERYONE wants to do. He meant to say what his niece wants to do.
I think your question got cut off but coincidentally I work with sexual addicts. If your husband is acting inappropriately that has to be disclosed and the problem has to be addressed. If your husband has an overactive sexual drive or a need to focus on other women he must come to terms with that. There are professionals that are trained in inappropriate sexual behavior. Maybe if others along with you can present to him his inappropriate behavior he will realize that it is unfair to you and to others. This particular sexual focus being most inappropriate would be a good choice since it is the most drastic. You may even bring this to his attention when it is happening. If you met with a relationship counselor you could address this with someone so that he can't dismiss your feelings as foolish. Anything that is wrong in a relationship is not foolish and deserves attention. If you present him with a nonthreatening reason to attend he may be willing to do so. Showing any inappropriate attention to a minor is a serious issue. I would investigate help by visiting the American Psychological Association.
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