It is admirable that you are willing to do whatever necessary to see the children. Although your children may be angry now this is often not the case in later years. People can be angry when they don't understand their emotions in difficult times so part of this may be resolved on it's own. Being stubborn she may just be acting out her feelings about the divorce. I would slowly try to get her attention but if you push too hard it may cause her to feel more overwhelmed. Just slowly begin to get her to a place where if she has questions she can ask them. It takes baby steps sometimes. This will allow her the opportunity to share her thoughts and resolve them. This may take some rejection initially but in the end she is old enough to begin to form her own thoughts rather than the thoughts of others. Continue to offer to take her someplace private but don't plan too far ahead.
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