He has to be in bed at 18:30 in the evenings. She doesn't allow him to study in the afternoons (he needs his rest and she wants to go to the movies, ice-scating or other fun stuff during the week. She says weekends are for homework and studying. She goes to bed at 19:00 and then the entire house has to be quiet.
She also says that there are no way that he is allowed to study on his own - a parent has to supervise.
Ok, I hear you and I agree, he plays chess against adults and can totally cope with that (on his own). She has told us that she will ensure that there are no fun time for us over weekends. On a Saturday morning, she sends a text message of what we are allowed to do that day. She picks him up from school in the afternoons (our schools end at 14:00) and then they go home. I don't know how he will practically be able to do his work without her seeing. Sometimes he is told just to sit with her so she can look at him? Bath time is at 17:00, then dinner, then bed. But reading between your lines, it seems that the closeness is perhaps the problem? I wish him a good relationship with his mom, I don't want to compete.
Thanks I'll also think a bit more. South African schools are from 08:00 to 14:00 with two 15 minute reses's. So at school, no time. But we'll find a way...