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Thanks for your advice. However, i just did the opposite. I got very upset and I left the room and I came back after 5 sec. I yelled at her that she has no right to talk to me like that. I told her " You have to have respect for your mom and I will not take this anymore and I won't talk to her for the next 24 hours" and I said all this in a crying voice.
I feel after all I have done for her, she has no respect for me. She has respect for every women out there (Her aunts, grandma, cousins), but not me. What can i do to change that?
I just feel that I am not good in making boundaries with people (my husband, my kids, my in-laws) . I just let it go until they do something that really bothers me and then I blow up. What should I do? Is there a good book that I can read about boundaries?
I understand what you are saying. And back to boundaries. Can you give me some examples of boundaries that a child should have in order to respect her parents more. I feel like I have been too easy on my kids. Maybe that's why they are not respecting me the way they should.
Hello again and thank you once again for your patience!
I'll give you some general examples, if you want to give me some specific problem areas we can narrow it down a bit.
1. No name calling
2. Ask instead of demand "Can I have a snack please," Instead of "I'm hungry! Give me a snack!"
3. No yelling or swearing
4. No interrupting
5. No taking/borrowing personal items without asking (it should be clear what are "family items")
6. Knock on the bedroom door, don't just come in
I have some personal boundaries that may or may not apply to you
7. TV must be on low volume before I get out of bed
So, like I said give me some things that you think ought to be boundaries and I'll help you out with them.