He should be able to express his feelings but this is difficult for a lot of men. Sometimes it takes some teaching. That is why self help can work wonders. You just have to get past the resistance and the rest is easy. If you say you also have certain issues then you have to work on this together. A marriage counselor would help you immensely. Communication is essential. Techniques can be taught to listen to each other such as the rules of fair fighting. These are rules that help partners have boundaries in arguing that do not promote disrespect. For instance you can set limits on arguments (20 minutes) so that each of you to take a break and come back willing to listen.
They are explained and given at length in the Mars and Venus series. These promote adult behavior where both you can come together and have a discussion rather than other ploys such as the silent treatment or ignoring the problem