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Ehen you say they are still in constant contact, what do you mean, exactly?
Live in different cities but share files and research
text often before i found out supposedly nothing but work now
Does she admit that she messed up, anmd is she clearly contrite?
yes she says she is sorry
Swears it ended way before i found out
OK - the answer to 'what should I do?' really depends on a couple of things. Dou you want your relationship to continue?
2 kids and good life
Right - I'm with you. In that case, you have to put this behind you and move on. She needs to know, however, that if she ever does such a thing again, the realtionship stops right there and then.
Once she clearly understands that, I'm inclined to suggest that from then on, you will never refer to it again, and start to build trust again
having alot of trouble trusting
While it was going on I confronted her numerous times
Had no proof just feeling
she was acting different
Lied several times when asked point blank
I'm sure you ARE having a lot of trouble trusting. All you can do, though, is make your position crystal clear, then accept her apologies, and take what she does at face value.
She would lie of course - itherwise whe would have had to accept that she had put your relationship at risk, and I'm sure she was somply too scared at the time to be honest
I think your iptions are very limited. Either you get out of the relationship ( which you clearly do not wish to do) or get on with salvaging what is left. What do you think?
Hello? Still there?
can't get out need to salvage but very difficult
She is out of town alot....works late often...
I always counted on her honesty but....
It will be difficult, but in order to get what you want, it IS the only way to go. Just as long she understands the consequences of messing up again!
Remind her too that actions speak louder than words. She can protest all she wants, but one more slip and she is out!
I was hoping for an instant cure but not possible
Thanks for the help
Will take time I guess
I so wish I could offer you an instant solution, but as you say yourself, there is 'ntone. It will tae time, and there will be a lot of trust needed, but given all that you have said, I suspect that you'll both make it
Is thery anything else you want to know?
Why the hell did she do it?
I can only speculate - but out of town, working late in close proximity to a presumably attractive man. But it's only guesswork. She did it. Time to get on with your lives.
Is there anything else I can help you with?
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