My son caught be baring my breast on webcam? He is 14 and upset and I feel horrible.
Person's Gender: Female
Person's Age: 41
I tried talking to him as soon as it happened and he was at first but now he wont talk to me. I told him I met a guy online in Canada and I have been talking to him for 5 mos. He said what if I showed the tip of my penis that is that same thing. How do I help this and not scar him for life?
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Well, i can understand that this must have shocked and disgusted and embarrassed him a lot and agreed that you should have been more careful with this indiscretion , but now what has happened has happened , you must have apologised to him many times also, but to no avail , as he is infuriated and in no mood to let go off this ..
So, looking at the gravity of this matter i reckon this is serious enough to be tackled by a professional as you alone cannot make him look at this as a part and parcel of life which although seems shocking from a distance and at his age but has quite become and accepted a norm of life..
You cannot make him grow overnight and make him percieve our point of view as an adult ..
What he needs is proper counseling from a clinical psychologist so as to overcome this shocking incident and accept it as a part of adult life and also prevent him from being emotionally scarred from it .
So, instead of giving him repeated explanations and apology , tell him upfront or write him a message or text ( communicate your true feels of embarrassment and offer your apology in plain simple words ) him and pour your heart out and then give him some time to heal from this and to come to terms with this.
Meanwhile look out for a chuld psychologist ,discuss with him this issue and take your son to meet rhe psychologist to have a talk on this matter and start him on therapy for sometime ..
At this time he is filled with lots of anger and disgust and angst , but he is not going to open up in front of you , but it is essential that he vents out his anger and channelize it somewhere , so the best channel would be with a session with child psychologist , who is unbiased and will give him his take and solution to deal with this issue ..
They were not fully exposed but i guess that this does not help
I will keep my statement simple and let him know that I am ashamed of myself
and let him know I was weak?
Please do not let him be and swipe this issue under the carpet , this issue needs to be addressed properly in the best way possible , so that your child does not harbor feelings of disrespect and angst againswt you , years from now ..
I won't..I feel like an idiot
so better would be to let a professional like a child psychologist handle it , because if you try any further then it may so happen that some words which come out from your mouth unintentionally trigger his anger even more..
that is better statement and please do not give him an reasons or justifications..
or defend yourself ..
this will take out the steam out of your apology..
it is best at the moment to own up and then let him heal
and if the need arises
use help of a child psychologist
this will take time but he will get over it ,
soon enough he will be entering adulthood and will start to realize and identify the nuances and intricacies of relationships of adults..
I will do whatever I can to help him with this..you have at least given me a pathway
i hope this helps..
wish you all the best..
do not worry..
i hope I have not lost his respect
this wil be pass ..
be strong ..
thank you and I will try not to
and own up your mistake
and do not self depreciate yourself
it was a mistake
and no one is judging you..
A BIG ONE
only the timing was bad
and some bad luck..
Take care of this issue as we have discussed
I hope this helps..
okay and thankyou
Wish you all the best..
You are welcome ..
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