mybabys dad just left me like a week ago and hes back with his other babys mom. im 4 months pregnate with his second child. im in the process of moving into a bigger apt and im so confused hurt lost depressed and dont know what to do
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I am really sorry to hear about your current predicament where in your baby's dad has abondoned you at such a fargile moment of time when you need him the most , this is really unfortunate and must have been hard on you.
However, while i empathize with you , but at the same time i will like to address here that you being into 4 months of your pregnancy should try to avoid stress as much as possible as this can have an adverse effect on your pregnancy and health of the fetus , so while it is completely understandable that you are so very upset , hurt and frustrated with your baby's dad's irresponsible and selfish behaviour , but at this point of time , i reckon there is a bigger issue that needs your attention and that is to have a stress free pregnancy. So i will suggest that let this unfortunate event take a back seat and for one start concentrating on your health and the health of your fetus and try to not to think of your boyfriend too much , as first of all he does not deserve your coaxing and pleading as he has abandoned you at this time , so how can you trust him from now on, so yu got to learn to accept this bitter reality and accordingly move on in life on your own.
Since you are pregnant so i will not suggest you any drug as they can be harmful to the fetus unless they are absolutely indicated , so i suggest you that if this unfortunate turn of event of abandonment is becoming too much for you to handle so in that case i believe you need professional help in the form of counseling from a clinical psychologist in person, on one to one basis so as to work on your frustration and disgust over this issue with the help of specialist and with is/ her help overcom this personal set back and try to channelize your energy to something more constructive like getting prepared and planning things for your upcoming baby and to weave your life around the little one.
While a psychologust will prove to be a great help for you to see through this heartbreak and dissapointing phase of your life , but at the same time you also got to make an effort to get yourself surrounded by some close family members like parents and siblings in order to get positive vibes from them so that you can have a lot of feel good emotions during this phase which shall overcome and shun away the negative emotions which your boyfriend's arrogance and betrayal have given you.
So, stop beign a sorry figure , stop pleading him to come back , as if he had to come back he wold have come back by no , let alone leaving you in the firts place , so for your own satisfaction you can talk to him one last time about his return , but do not talk as if pleading him but remind him of hs duty and responsibility as a father to the coming child and then leave it to him about his decision of return , do not depreciate yourself any further by pleading him , you have done enough appeasing already , if aafter all of this he is still holding back, then he is not woth all of this , he does not deserve you.
I hope you see reason in my advise , please take some time to do some introspection on your own anf think over what i have said , your dignity and self respect are at stake , which have been maligned by your boyfriend , so this issue should not just boil down to him doing a favor in you by returning as the child is as much his responsibility as is yours..
Wish you all the best.
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