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Your daughter is quite young and is not able to understand that she is bragging or trying to be one up on her friends. She may be a bit insecure when friends are around when you are there as well, because she is afraid of losing attention. and affection.
Try giving her a little bit more attention at these moments, and if she acts up, tell her gently and not in front of her friends that she needs to be a bit more respectful. Do not get angry with her however, but use a pleasant voice and a smiling face. You might try to overlook a few things, and just give her some more slack.
Spanking her will just make her more insecure, and using her dad as a threat is not fair to dad.
Children can usually work out their differences when playing together. Ending a play session early has the effect of making future play sessions moments of anxiety
, and this should be avoided unless the children are coming to hard blows against each other, which is very unlikely.
It is possible that you are worrying a little too much, and have expectations about her behavior that are a bit high. She is not really a defiant child
I believe that with a some more positive reinforcement, she will come around and be just fine.
If you have more to add
or ask,I shall be available in the morning.
I wish you great success and urge you to stop worrying.
Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC