Hi! You know, to give you the best answer, I think I should ask you a few questions first that will help define the problem and the situation.
This is indeed a very troubling and difficult situation. It is too severe, it seems to try to manage it by yourself with self help techniques. A professional is indeed required here.
Is your income low enough that she could qualify for children's Medicaid in your state? The requirements for children if she has no insurance are usually less stringent.
Would the adoption agency have funds as this was a preexisting condition of the adoption?
Would you be able to work with someone who accepts a sliding fee scale?
When you say other things, to what do you refer?
Any extra information that will help, feel free to share.
Please go ahead and post your response. I'm going to be going into therapy sessions in my office soon, so if I can't answer before that, would later tonight be okay for me to respond?
Thank you for your patience; I'm sorry, I was away for a while.
I know you want an answer as quickly as possible. But this is your life and I want to make sure that the answer I give you is the most fitting to your specific situation and who you are. So I need to ask just a little more:
Again, this is not a self help situation. You MUST be guided in how you deal with your daughter by a competent psychologist. I am not clear, though, about the child's therapist. She's the ONLY one your insurance will cover does not make sense from my experience. What is your insurance company and what location are you in?
Is there a university with a psychology department near you? I'm wondering about getting in touch with the head of the department to see if he/she has a faculty member whose specialty is children's disorders and seeing if such a severe case would be of interest to them and you could use them to get advice and help.
The same with a Children's Hospital Psychiatric Department. Your daughter is not a common case, much more severe. If you can consult with them, they might be interested in helping and they usually take EVERY insurance.
Here is the web address for Psychology Today's therapist directory. You can sort by zip codes and when you see someone who seems like they might be helpful (they show you a photo of the therapist!) look at the listing and see if they list working with children and accepting Gateway. I don't know if there are any, but it's a resource. Interview the therapist and make sure he/she shares your values and you each feel confident in him or her or if they maybe know someone who might be very experienced in child abuse cases.