I ran out of room on the question and your Paragraph 3 concerned me a bit... While I will file a complaint with the regulators as the LPC has held herself out as MS, LCSW while only having LPC licensure, and the LPC has some protection as a mandatory reporter, I believe the mandatory reporting is actually the reason litigation as well as official complaint is so compelling. It is my belief that the rules regarding madatory reporting and immunity as such cannot apply to an LPC that created the circumstance which caused the report by discounting anything that didn't confirm her hypothesis. She was told early and often by third parties there was NO abuse, continued to treat "As If" and who knows what her notes may say, I have her testimony as biased, rigid and my civil attorney suggest her comment regarding "vagina" may be considerred purjury as C1 has never said this to anyone. In fact, I believe I know my child that well. During my supervised parenting time, C1 said frequently "Mommy said you touched my bottom and that's why you have to be here now." During our separation/divorce, probably b/c I don't trash back, C1 often told me what others she love's had said, I took all the money, she shouldn't love me so much, she'd been told I don't love her, it isn't good/nice to have a room at Daddy's, even my animals and parents were mean to her... there is NO way, from a very attentive fathers perspective, that C1 hasn't said "Mommy Said" often to the LPC.
Another issue I'm having, while I can Google tons of info regarding malpractice insurance and cases/settlements, I cannot find on Psycology, APA or LCSW sites, or in general, any detailed info on planting false memories by a therapist, a list of ethical malpractice concerns, pitfalls, warnings etc. Any idea on articles, where to find them or other sites I may not have thought of?
Thank you so far... I can quote from Dr's Warshak, Gardner, Baker, Linda Gottlieb, etc., the Rivlen study in 1991, and, the amazing thing about your answer is, my Ex was so abusive during our relationship, used abuse, decission making as an award and empowerment for further abuse and a green light to go ahead with alienation that I've been so shell shocked for so long that your statment about making it clear to her that I'm willing to go toe to toe now and the next time, is the first time I realized my only hesitation, beyond continued engagement and/or the effect on the children, is and has been: she scares the crap out of me.... Thank you.... I needed to realize that.
You mistated one thing... you said "[my fear] of alienating my ex" and especially if this is posted publically, I have never alienated my ex, I have been nothing but supportive, although I can think of a couple of things in support of her relationship with our children that may have furtherred her alienating of me. I am a "Becoming a Love and Logic Parent, Independent Facilitator. If you work with parents, or even managers, I urge you to look into Love and Logic. It has, so far, preserved my relationship with our children, the entire premis is handing back problems to children with empathy so they learn responsibility and as a brief expample, when C1 told me, as I carried her into my home: "Mommy says your the biggest monster she's ever seen," although that stings, I first realized this is ultimately a problem between my child and her mother and without trashing back, I simply asked a question (gave a choice) "I don't think Daddy is a monster, what do you think?" "No, just Daddy." Great lets go get our Lego's.
Lastly, you'll get all 5. Things have been so litigous that my question was my very first public display of anything that I my daughters and I have been through. I clicked submit with one eye closed and carried my laptop even to the restroom awaiting yor reply. I completelly expected something brief: "can't give legal advice" or "get a therapist" and what I got was understanding, concern and a problem handed back to me with empathy. Good job.