Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
I am sorry to hear of your struggle. Parents at 80 years old are unlikely to change in the way you hope for. I am not saying you dont express your feelings, but maybe more about not expecting too much in the way of change.
If her moods are unpredictable then she may be suffering as well.
I see you are offline but look forward to chatting when you are back online.
She's not suffering; her moods are always unpredictable. The question remains:Do I contact her or wait for her to call? I still have a lot of resentment.
Well if you contact her do you believe she can hear you? And what I mean about suffering was in terms of being bipolar as well?
I truly understand your feelings and you have every right to feel what you feel, I am just not sure I hear an ability on her part to hear you so it comes down to you deciding what works for you.
The other stuff about you calling to much doesnt make much sense but if you believe she does feel that then maybe pull back and let her reach out to you.
and you sound terrific with lots of love and acceptance for your children.
OK. good advice. thank you!
it is my pleasure. can i support you in any other way?
Not right now, but I may be back! :)