Hi Kate. So here is what we are going to do: all 6 of us are putting in writing all that we witnessed, all that he said, the fb posts, etc. J will write out what jappened with her I am going to write a cover letter/ summary saying that we are frightened of and go him and primarily for A. That we love him, but he is in some serious trouble and needs help and is abusive and neglectful of his daughter and we are concerned about her safety. That they need to know they have a man up there who is out of control, angry, volatile, armed to the hilt, and is alone with a 2 year old. That he is off his meds, paranoid and violent. That we want to get him the help he needs, but at the same time need to protect A. I will tell them that, based on out experience, I they make even a casual initial contact without ensuring A's safety, he is likely to go into a rage and may harm himself or A, and stress
that we believe that there needs to be a planned intervention to get A out of the way when they confront him, and to avoid any kind of stand-off. I will also tell them that his mother is in abq but he seems to be resentful about watching A and she will likely have no help, since she will likely never speak to any of us again, although there are a number of us who would be glad to care for A. I am also gpong to let tWillkie that hisom made a comment Monday morning (not to me - it was when she was going off to tami about my starting all this and her having to watch A [altgough I could not have made to more clear that I would do everything & it wasy responsibility. I think she just thought it would look bad of I was willing to do something and she, the grandma, was not]) that she understand why C beats A (because A kept her awak the night before she said she totally "gets" it now (why he abuses A), sp she may no be the best choice to care for A. I will also give them his sister's info, although she is in TN.
We will fax all this to the family advocacy program on base, and email it to CPS on the county. S will beat my office, and as soon as we send these off, he will call one agency and I will call the other.
I am so afraid they will contact him but not remove A. Everyone is scare this will push him over the edge and he will hurt himself and/or A and/or others. Nobody wants that on their heads. But there is no safer way to do this, and we all agree that we have a responsibility to A. Doing nothing is not an option. They also l ow that it is going to tear their family apart, but again, what's the other option? I said I would report it myself, but all of us separately witnessed a lot more, an I felt we need to go in with theist we can to maximize the chances that they will act. We know there is a chance they will not, but we have to do as much as we can. They all are willing to risk whatever, although some of them (J's mother in particular) are scared to death that he will drive down here and shoot them. I have a hard time believing he could/would do that.ore afraid for A. He's not going to shoot me. But if he did
, they'd certainly take A away :).
Any suggestion on how to make this as effective as possible but also as safe as possie for A (and for C)?
Did anyone try to help you & your siblings when you were being abused? If so, why did they leave you there? Did it make it worse go you?