Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.
I am sorry to hear about this problem-
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After working with couples for 35 years I can see that there are foundational issues that will need to be addressed with an Expert- meaning a Qualified Marriage and Family Therapist who can help with this.
Often times, and as it sounds as in what you write, a spouse (your wife) may be unwilling to consider therapy as this is a manifestation of her unwillingness to consider your feelings about the issue.
IF that is the case, then you need to seek counseling with a Therapist that can help you sort out your options.
Have you considered getting some professional help?
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