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Well, Rob might be done with the interview by now, or just finishing up. Let me know about what happened please.
You have a lot on your plate right now and you are tired and overwhelmed. In any case, I am certain Rob can get his interview suit and material together on his own. He knows you love him. And, Lands End stuff looks great and I have done the same thing with the clothes dryer. It always works. Anyway, psychologically speaking, as long as he looks the role they will not care about his suit. Unless he wears the plaid red suit with the paisley tie...then there might be issues.
And, I know you are worried about what will happen tomorrow at the doctors. I will pray for you. I know God will take care of you as you go through this, and I will help you as much as I can with any result. Steven
It sounds like Rob's interview went very well. Heck. I wasn't there and it sounded impressive.
He really has done some complex and high level jobs. That has to be a good push in his favor. And if they are giving tours, that is one of the best signs. You do not so that with candidates that you feel are less than in the top few percent. I feel that he has an excellent shot at this based on what you have said. And, the Friday being off thing and the 401k sound terrific as well. And, if he does not get it (and I think he will) there is ConEd. But who knows what is going on there. Just because the union is at the table does not mean that there is a resolution in sight. I have high hopes for this job though. It sounds really great, the behavior of the management folks who interviewed him. I think he has a real shot.
Rest is what you needed. I doubt you were aware of how put out you were with all the stress. You needed this rest. I am happy for you that you feel better and have more energy.
I also feel you made a great move with your hair appointment. If you cannot see the doctor until 5pm at least you will have something else to distract you. Please make sure while you are there that you talk about things that have nothing to do with problems. That way your mood will elevate and although the doctor will be in the back of your mind it will not be as bad.
What sane person would want pregnancies that were like the ones you have. We didn't and we went through so much with all three. It is not easy and I get that you want to stop. That makes sense to me. Why suffer if you do not have to, and you have Kate who is wonderful in her own right. So it is not like you do not have any children. You need a break from all of this stuff, and you are so hard on yourself too!
Wait and see what goes on with this pregnancy and then go from there. Too much self imposed pressure is no good either. Yo do not know what will happen and you need to be positive about this pregnancy as well. Yes, I know you are in many ways, but try to not pressure yourself with choices that cannot be made yet.
I do need to let you know that I will have very few minutes with the computer tomorrow as I am out at an all day event. I might be able to drop a line at night, but I will see your responses on email. Let me know what the doctor says. I want to hear, my ability to respond or not. Steven
Not sure what it means exactly that the interview person mentioned others. We do that all the time, just for salary negotiating purposes, as we look less desperate that way. And, the way the guy was talking...I think Rob has a very good chance.
Who on earth really wants to return to a job like yours? You have nothing but stress to look forward to, and with a bunch of people who are for the most part okay; but then there are those who are not too wonderful either. I mean it is good that yo can save on FMLA, but still...I would not worry to much about your lack of desire to go to work. It seems pretty darn normal if you ask me.
Rob and you both have similar concerns, and different ones. You are right. He would be one heck of a guy if he was there for you at this appointment, and he still may...but even if not I do get why. You both are really involved in some life changing and stressful events. I am sure that once things settle down in his life that he will be more available.
Kate is terrific. But it would be nice if she had a sibling. There is good and bad on both ends of that, but you are also right. It is no guarantee that having a sibling for Kate would mean that they get along. Many of the sibling relationships that exist are anything but amiable. I never had one and I liked it. It really depends on the person I think. But mom, she should definitely have been there more for you. Not coming to pick out your wedding dress? What the heck is that about?True, she showed up, but it was like breaking her arm or something; that does not make you feel good, feeling like it was forced.
Just know that no matter who treats you, good or bad, their actions do nothing to change you, Liz. You were made with purpose and despite how others treat you, a diamond is still a diamond.
Let me know what the ob said...Steven
Hey, how about that, a boy! Congratulations!.
Well, you certainly seemed like this one was a boy based on your physical reactions and all. But even you suspected that he was a boy, very early on. And, please do not take too much to heart the Downs Syndrome single marker. They have to tell you this stuff for legal reasons. A while ago I had a conversation with an OB oriented statistician. The risk with one marker, especially a sonogram one, is about the same as having a driver lose control and hit you, a pedestrian, walking on the street in any one day. (and not in NY either) It is not high; and I have also heard, and experienced firsthand, the stupidity of these tests and what a single marker really means...nothing. My kid is a freaking genius and she had markers too. Truth is with technology they see everything, yet do not know absolute baselines for individual pregnancies. It is not possible for them to do so with all the variability that is out there. And that is the truth.
And look. The clot is not serious and you will be cleared to go back to work. You needed the break. You got one, and all the worry about losing your job and all did not come true, as the worst things also did not with the licensing thing. Relax. Your family has you conditioned to worry about everything, and look at the reaction your mother has. She panics and worries. That, seen as an adult is hard enough. Can you imagine the impact on you as a child? And you wonder why it is so hard for you to feel free and at ease. Nice comment your mother gave to kate about daddy forgetting her. That is just so helpful for easing a child's worries. And again, if you see this in her now, no wonder you feel your life is so doom and gloom sometimes. You have had it shoved into your head, constantly.
Ah Rob...missed the entire point on this one he did. The issue here is you and the baby not a messed up train stop. Really. I hate to say it as I am one of them, but men can be so blasted self absorbed at times. The way we think, it is like whatever problem is before us is the only problem and the rest of it fades away, quickly. He should be in hot water over not asking, at least a bit and I love his mother's reaction of defending him and ignoring the fact that he is being oblivious. And, btw: Men think they want boys and they run out to buy bats and gloves. But until they are six and up, they are mom's baby. Big time. And, many men get the experience of feeling rejected far more with a boy than a girl. So, not to deflate this either...this will be your little one far more in the beginning than Rob's, and there is just something about that mother-son bond that goes beyond the usual of a daughter.
For your own sanity: Try not to compare your pregnancies with each other. They are totally different and just because they did not see Kate's hip issue on the sonogram does not mean that there is anything wrong with this child. That is your mother channeling her stuff through you. The baby is fine and what they saw was good, not bad. Each baby is different. Some are crazy in utero and others, subtle as a clam. They offset each other. So, if Kate is the wild woman...this one will not be so active. It is not scientific, at all, but I have found it to be true.
Your dad is sweet. He fights for you, and I am glad to see that one of your parents gave you something more than anxiety attacks as a legacy. At least you know he was there at the very start of you, and beyond.
I am sure the hospital has more disturbing issues on their plate than using resources to track you at home. Plus it was right and fair and a good idea to tell HR about your situation. This too will work out.
See, your attorney, the one you did not think even liked you is calling you to get a testimonial. What does that say? See...things are not sometimes bad, as you often see them. This call, though frightening was a complement to you and the way you handled things.
Well, I wasn't supposed to be an only, but my mother lost the pregnancy and as my father was ill at that time with cancer, they chose not to try again. It was the right choice for them and I gained much from being an only in terms of helping shape this career. All things work out and God knew what was going on in my family too. As is the case with yours.
Carolyn is right. The pregnancies that are harder seem better in outcome later. I mean all kids are precious, but these ones, there is just something about them. (I said to my wife, who had a couple of tough pregnancies..a quality product comes at a price.)
Yes, it would be great if you had a better acting mom. But I would be happy if you could start to see what she is, and how that is not you and how much she influences you and how you can see that, and move away from it. For her legacy with you is worry and catastrophe. And in truth, your life turns out pretty well despite the challenges. Steven