He has been fine since I go here. Apparently he had a miraculous alteration when his mom took his daughter with her. I just don't think he can handle her. His wife was deployed a few months ago and is not going to be back until December. He I a stay-at-home dad when she is here, too. Since he got here, he ha apparently left her unattended for hours, in a non-childproof room without a playpen or anything, left her unattended outside (there's a pond), or yties to leave P's 9 yo great niece be responsible for her. He Has never gotten her hair cut apparently, and so they were trying to nicely offer to cut her hair. He told T she could cut it (A, his daughter, was eating). He was going put to the garage to play video game. T said she didn't want to do it unless he was there to okay it, since it was her 1st haircut. C (nephew) got mad and told the 9 yo to hold A's hands up. He grabbed the scissors from T, chopped off A's hair and walked out. All of her hair fell in her food an he just left.
That stuff is bad enough, but to hear that he was yelling at her, screaming for her to "go the f*** to sleep," yelling at her that he hopes she hurts erself and learns her lesson, etc. I am floored. She is not even 2 - her bday is late September. She can't possibly understand. She was chewing on something the other day, and T said "what does she have?" (c was not around). She was chewing on the barrel of a gun! S (P's brother) told him guns were not permitted in the house and made him lock them in his car. S is the one C threatened. He's fine now, but is a big baby. He won't do anything and if he is asked to do something, he throws a fit. He keeps saying that nobody likes him, everyone just notices when he screws up, but otherwise don't pay attention to him, blah blah blah.
I couldn't believe what he was doing with A. I asked P, C and T how they could stand by and not do anything, especially wowing parents themselves. They said he was so volatile and they were so floored, they didn't k ow what to do excep keep A away from him. That's fine. And if he doesn't want to deal with her, I will take care of her while we are here, but what does she go home to? I would imagine he's on his best behavior in front of everyone. This is all unbelievable to me. His dad (P's brother) was the most gentle, loving man. He would be so upset. The problem, too, is that C is so big. He's about 6'8" 300 lbs. I am going to see how things are when he gets back. I have a feeling his sister (who has a kid who is almost same age) is going to go off on him and he wi get angry. I can't watch or hear him screaming at A and do nothing. Who I will just take her and have soneone take her soneone else and call the police. I can't believe nobody has done anything, but I do understand that they were afraid of him taking off angry with A. So sad
. I think everyone is a little shocked. We all knew he got angry sometimes and was lazy and selfish, but nobody expects this.
I don't mind being the one who calls the police. I would rather he hate me instead of his family. He has talked to me a lot since I got here last night. He is a strange one. I tried to bring it up with him, but I wasn't here when all that happened. He acted as though all is fine. I didn't feel like I could confront him since I didn't witness it.
I've been cleaning like madlast night and all day today. I think it's driving everyone else crazy. Oh well. I couldn't stand it.
Well, I will let you know what happens. I'm right, aren't I, that screaming the f word at a 22 month old (who is very active but still can't talk a lock) and screaming at her all the time is some kind of abuse? They were thinking nothing can be done unless there is physical abuse. Are they right? There is seinitely neglect, except that everyone ere is obviously not going to let her go unwatched. He brought only 2 outfits for her for over a week, won't wash them, and won't change her diaper. So obviously everyone else has and will take care of that stuff. The good thing is that although he lives on a different city, he does live in the state of CO, which I think would give the police and/or children's services more power. But I don't. Know.