Wow, Shay, that is scary. I would definitely call the police. Just the fact alone that he has made threats. Then add that he is angry and has means to carry out those threats are all justification for an evaluation for a 302. You might want to call ahead to the police to see what your options are as well as the local hospital ER to ask about a 302. The last thing anyone wants to do is interfere with a family event but it sounds like your concerns are very justified. I would play it safe. You may even end up saving some lives if this guy decides to go off.
I hope it goes well. Let me know.
You are definitely right that screaming cuss words and all the other things this guy is doing to his daughter is abuse. If you can get someone who witnessed how he treated his daughter to call child protective services. And you are right that what he does at home is probably a lot worse. He can easily be accused of neglect and child abuse just based on what he has done in front of all of you. I can't imagine what that poor child has been suffering with at home. Here is the number to call to report this guy:
Also, contact the police where he lives and notify them of what everyone saw while with him. They need to know something is going on. Does this child have any relatives in the area where she lives? Can someone check on her or take her for a while? Those are some of the options you have. Also, her mother may need contacted even if she is deployed. Most service members, unless they are in the war zone, can be reached by email or even cell phone. She needs to know what is going on.
I think it's great that you are stepping in to help this little girl.
I'm glad to hear that you are reporting this man to the police. He sounds downright scary and his wife doesn't sound much better. That poor child.
I would not tell him that you intend on reporting him. Based on his behavior, he will most likely become angry and try to take the girl away so no one can be with her or help her. It's better to get advice from Childline and the local CYF (Children and Youth services) about what your options are. And the guy's mother can also file for custody as well.
Thanks for keeping me up to date. I am praying for the little girl.
PS I think we need to close this thread out and start a new one.