My question concerns the consumption of alcohol by an individual which causes a possible "blackout" (jury is still out if I believe they actually blackout) and the professing of love.
So to preface the question, a little backstory...I have a friend that when we first saw each other at the gym, there was a DEFINITE attraction from boy of us...he would stare at me or I would catch him looking for my whereabouts while I was there...etc etc...however, he had/has a significant other while at the time I did
not (I was on a break with my current bf.) We finally became friends and built a pretty close friendship since then and he now even works for my BF.
Three months ago at a charity event, we all got very intoxicated afterwards (we don't really party together much bc I don't drink much at all and he works most nights) and we all stayed the night at the hotel. Well we were up hangin out all night and at some point it seemed as if he was starting to really pour on the drinks and at that point he started playing footsie with me...I was intoxicated and allowed it, and admit to liking it. He later asked to go on a walk so we did and one thing led to another and we started to make out and that's when he hit me with a doosy...he told me "You know I love you right?" I had no idea at that point being we had been friends for a while by this point. I kinda came to my senses and stopped the rest of it....funny thing is I know he remembers this night (tho he said later he didnt remember much) bc of something he did the next day that definitely was consistent with his feelings.....Well I let it go and then all of a sudden last Saturday we went out again and got pretty intoxicated, we went to my BFS bar afterhours and drank more and again it seemed like he started pouring on the consumption on purpose (whereas he was more steady and paced earlier in the night.) He then followed me to the bathroom and came into the stall with me...not once but twice and he had the same look on his face that he did three months earlier - an intense focused on me look. After a while I told him I had to take him home and on the ride he asked to take a walk before we did. I obliged and then he said it again. I love you. I questioned what that even meant and he just kept saying it. And asked me what about my BF etc, which I didn't understand. But he just kept saying it to me. The next day, he claimed to not remember anything about the night starting with getting to my bfs bar afterhours.
So walk me through this...are his feelings true? is this the case during a blackout? is he really blacking out? Soooo confused here...
- Confused and Concerned...