Hello, I'm Alicia. Thanks for your question. I'm happy to help you today.
It certainly sounds like you've both been dealing with an extremely high level of stress over the past several years, and unfortunately, in many cases, relationships are often the first casualty of too much stress. You're not just dealing with garden-variety stress levels, however - a house fire, death of your nephew, your husband losing his job, these are all very high on the scale, taking each one individually. Combined, it's amazing that you've both been able to handle it and survive everything that's happened and still be together right now - albeit with the problems you've described, which are by no means easy to deal with. Since there's so much to take into consideration, I'm going to switch our chat over to a Q&A format so I can give your question some thought, and then I will post my response. Also, if you have any questions after receiving my reply, please reply first prior to rating. Thanks, XXXXX XXXXX give me a few moments to write my response.
OK. Thank you very much and I look forward to hearing from you again.
Thank you so much for replying in such depth. I agree with everything you've said - think I just needed it spelt out for me. I will organise counselling straightaway - I broached the subject last night with my husband and he said he thought counselling would be a good idea (a miracle, I know!). Thank you, again, so much.
With kindest regards R