I hope you can give me some advice as how best I can help my 85 year old mother who is extremely distressed. Some three years ago she found out that my father had been unfaithful to her.
She re-examined every aspect of her life in light of this knowledge, re-focusing on suspicions she had dismissed at the time as well as his lack of empathy and devotion to her. Their relationship became very stormy, often having three of more huge arguments a day which sometimes lead to pushing and shoving.
Her doctor referred her to a physiatrist who put her on anxiety
medication. We also arranged for her to see a psychologist and she did
have about six sessions before she cancelled because she felt it was not helping her. Since then she has had a follow appointment with the physiatrist and her medication increased. She was also tested for dementia
My mother has a number of medical problems including diabetes and arthritis. She suffers a lot of pain for which she has been prescribed steroids, narcotic patches and endone.
Three months ago we put dad into a nursing home. He was showing early stages of dementia but really the situation at home was untenable.
My mother is totally consumed by this matter, thinks about it constantly and comes up with new suppositions. She is often angry and overwhelmed, cannot find much joy in life and says that her life has been pointless.