Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.
I am sorry to hear about your sons behavior.
Although Anger and Control Issues are certainly part of the character makeup of some one with Borderline Personality Disorder - these issues alone can also point to other issues.
As you have requested, I am going to give you some helpful in formation on how to deal with the Borderline Type.
People with the same BPD diagnosis can act quite differently. Researchers have been trying to categorize them for decades. One "real world,” subjective way is to divide them into three groups:
No category is "better” than the other. Each category has four dimensions: coping techniques, co-occurring mental health issues, functioning, and impact on family members.
You can find the full description and chat in Randi Kreger’s book on pages 37-40 in The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells
The following addresses specific for Families and HOW to interact and set limits with Borderline Personalities.
This is an excellent resource.
It is also helpful for you as parents to be able to understand the limits and boundaries that must be established and maintained so that you can preserve your emotional wellbeing:
Use the information here: http://www.joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.htm
to help you with this process.......it is a great template.
Remember Control is a central feature and you have no means of controlling someone else. Only oneself. This is crucial when dealing with someone with BPD.
I trust this information will help you and serves to answer your questions. Of course, your can CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION and I will be happy to respond.
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My best to you and your family.
What type of counseling or therapy is best to begin treatment, is there a certain type of therapy to look for?
Are there certain medications that are most often used to help control the mood swings?
My son is high functioning operating his own business, his relationship with his live in girlfriend is the most urgent at this point.
Would it be best for them to go to counseling together or separately?
We live in Pittsburg, KS 66762