i am on bedrest for this week and next. yep. saw the ob. he said i have a blood clot in between the placenta and the uterine wall. and... the babys ok. but he said my job is too strenuous. i said what? youre admitting the nurses work hard? he said yeah ive always said that. i said well get me a f**king video camera. i want to tape an attending ob actually admits the nurses work hard. well im f**king shocked. he laughed. when he first came to the room he said i heard what happened. i said yeah and where the f**k were you when i needed you? i said youre like every other man. no where to be found. he said i know. im a bastard. (i think dr k likes cursing with me. i swear. i think he has to be so prim and proper all the time and then with me.. he knows.. well im not like that. also he deals with all the conservative jews and those women dont work and.. are very precious i guess? and im like there without my husband all the time - they bring their husbands for their appointments.. i sit there by myself like an unwed mother.)
so he said are you still bleeding? and i said yeah its pink blah blah, its not alot but its there. its more than i like. and he checked me and said he saw bleeding and did the reg sono and was tlaking the whole time and said the placenta is not too low, not concerningly so - its appropriate for where i am in preg, its the clot. but the babys ok. i tried to nail him down- is it a boy or girl and he said he didnt look. he was looking for the heartbeat which i did hear but he seemed intent on looking at the placenta/ clot and i didnt wnat to interrupt and then he shut the machine off. he said the perineonatologist needs to look. so i said ok, so the guys in tomorrow, so i said could u squeeze me in and he said i was going to look. so there isnt any room so i have to wait for my reg scheduled appt with the perineo that was for next week.
he said he wouldnt clear me any sooner as it needs time to dissolve. but i didnt get much more info. he kind of wouldnt nail anything down and i kept hitting him with questions, but he kept circumventing me.
so iwill have to do soem research and look more of it up.
robs interview didnt happen. b/c apparently the head hunter told him today.. and its for next monday. so rob was upset whihc i dont blame him although he said maybe its good b/c well know more with con ed.. and a guy in his office got fired right before he was leaving and i think it shook him up. it was the guy who was critiquing my driving skills at the xmas party. he is a goofball... but it takes alot for me to think soemone needs to be fired.. esp coming form me since i feel i was unfairly discharged from my last job. i mean they didnt fire me. i did quit, but i know they told the pt they fired me etc. and apparently this guy yick - yeah hes asian thats his name - did what he was told by the bigger boss and the client got upset and they told the big client well we fired him. and rob was upset. we texted a few times as i was on the exam table waiting for the dr.
so no sex for us. i told the dr i needed a note and he said ok laughing. and he gave me a note for peter and peter seemed pissed. i didnt apologize, but asked if i could use my time. he said well youre now out of sick time i sadi i know could i use personal vac time? he said i dont know i have to talk to payroll. sigh. he also asked me to fax the note whichi said i have both and will tonight, rob needs to do it as our fax is not hooked up and i dont know how to do it. he said fine pretty matter of factly.
the ob said its not strict bedrest, its like tak eit easy light housework - i told him i suck at bedrest. he laughed and said ok. i said can i go get my eyebrows done? and he said go with god. so i did. i dont know if god was there but lets just say i told the girl she may need reinforcements. and more wax. lots more wax. he said no heavy shopping... hmm. but he said i can hold the baby for awhile but to take it easy.
the girl at the desk told me - carolyn - that she told dr k what happened and how i was so upset - and i said oh was he happy he missed it? so she said no he said he wished he was here. and i said well whats he gonna say? so she said well we know you dont cry wolf elizabeth. i said well 10 years and 4 preg ive never called and said i needed to come. so she said i know i wanted to just go get you and bring you b/.c i was worried about you driving. (she was there when i lost the last baby. kate was 8 months old sitting on the counter at the drs office and the girls were all cooing how beautiful and cute she is.. and carolyn told kate to be avery good girl for mommy shes very sad
right now..) and steven this is f**ked up, but it made me tear up b/c i realized my own mother wouldnt have done that for me (i went to dr k with kate and it was the day before my due date and he said liz your waters broken. u need to go to the hosp now. he said didnt you know? i said i wasnt sure.. but ifigure dit it had, i wouldve gone into labor. he said well you didnt so go now. i left and called my mom and said can i pick you up? im 5 min form her house. she said what? what are you crazy? i didnt ask again, but i felt really upset that she wouldnt even come with me in the car.. i figured in case of an emergency shed be there - i had to get on the grand central pkwy to drive back out to long island to go to the hosp..)
i hugged carolyn and thanked her and she said its ok sweetie anything i can do for you. i mean weve chatted and laughed over the yrs i say stupid crazy things and they love the baby and her name as its old fashioned as they say - but.. why would she do that for me?
and more importantly why wouldnt my mother? if kate called me- i would move heaven and earth to be there.
we have been paying my 700 a month for 4 years already. we have one more yr to go. and i paid robs 1180 a month for 5 yrs before it paid off. and for like 2 or 3 years they both were occuring at the same time. and its been hard. but im all cash still. and so is rob. only he has the cars in the lease in his name now.
rob cannot be audited. the man lives on almost nothing and nev er spends a dime. he didnt tell me about shoes until i saw them, and he had been wearing them. i said do you have a hole in this shoe? and he said yeah and i said why didnt you tell me? and he said we couldnt afford it.
anything rob get sis b/c i buy it for him. and thats seriously. he wont buy a book (library) and he doesnt have hobbies. and he doesnt shop. or gamble or drink... so what can i say?
i called to tell my parents about the appt and got my mom who had some questions and i answered the best i could and told her i needed to look it up. she said my dad was ok, he went to the store. i said ok. she said to send the baby tomorrow anyway - i told her i can bring her to visit like at 10am instead of 7am drop off like normal and she said no its fine, you rest. i think it was more like... i dont want you to come.. but i didnt say anything. she told me send her bathing suit. i said its all already packed. all her stuff is there.
i like how youre holding me naming the baby and your visit hostage. lol.