This is one heck of a post. So much emotional stuff is going on...this has to be totally overwhelming for you.
Emotionally: First of all, it is wonderful that you found out that the baby was doing well. I know you are scared of the bedrest issue, and your job, and the flak that comes back from it...but you do have a year in now, and you are required to be given FLMA protected leave by law, no questions asked. You cannot help that this occurred. It is a physical thing. They may be displeased, but things like this happen, and you have to prioritize your health and the baby's at this point. No, that does not remove the anxiety, but at least you were there a year and that FMLA will hold your position if needed, and the hospital has to grant it if it exceeded three consecutive work days with a doctors authorization that the condition legitimate. And, you have that. (Most people think ZFMLA is only for long leaves, but three days and up you qualify.)
The patient: Unless I am missing something here, I cannot see how this is your fault. Or why you would need legal counsel, HIPAA breach or otherwise. Yes, it was a breach of patient information. But, there is no way that you would suspect that a chart address was another patients.
That is on the records people, plain and simple. I sincerely XXXXX XXXXX this lady is so determined to commit fraud that she was intentionally impersonating someone, and based on her presentation, she sounds way too elemental to be thinking about spreading the other person's information around if she had it. This is not on you. It is on records. Besides...wasn't I right about the licensing thing? THe hospital will have to call the real "Suzie Q" to let her know her information got out, but that is not on you.
I know you want to defend the registration person, but it is their fault. Unless you have information that would exonerate them, let this go. The more you are a part of this, the worse it is. It is not unethical to let management sort this out with registration. This is a case where you should stay away unless asked.
On another note: I had to laugh when you said the baby really looks like baby. Of course it does. At 8 weeks even fingerprints are present. So at your stage, you have a "baby baby". It is really cool you got to see him. And your PA being "Honey"...Well, I guess I never thought about all the jokes that would go with that, but you are right. A stripper or something is what that name brings up. (people with odd names tend to either be great failures or great success stories, and not much else. Look at a prison roster sometime, lots of weird names.
Peter can go fly once the doctor approves you for bedrest. If it is past three days its is FMLA and he has to shut up. Besides, he wouldn't let you switch to days. Serves him right.
Kate is dealing with social stuff just like she should. She needs an equal, and now has it. That is a great thing. I am sure Kathy will be willing to have you have Kate over now that she sees how they are together.
Your mom, well even lions play well sometimes. I am sure she can afford to be gracious to you. She does, even if she can't see it, owe you. Your dad is sweet. You can tell he loves you to death and worries about you and your life and health. At least you have him, even if mom can be so inappropriate sometimes.
If your bleeding has stopped, they probably will want you to take it easy for a little bit and will monitor the placenta. They are going to read you the riot act, but if you beg to work they usually will give you minimum time on bedrest as that is not good for you altogether either. Relax. Take what you can of today. Tomorrow has enough worries of its own. Get through now and get some rest. Steven
Your patient is not a missing person. She was released on her own recognizance after being cleared at a hospital. That is how legal will see it. And, agree with Rob here; just look up her real address on Google if she has one. That will give you the information you need, and if not, a hospital can ask the local police to run down the real address and try to make contact if everyone is still worried.
Oh, that Rob. He is a smooth one...calling to check up on you. He is learning! lol
Someday I need to meet Kate. I doubt that will ever happen, but she sounds sweet. I am glad that she was able to socialize so well. And, as she is a baby influencing kid, it is obvious that she is a sweet one. Many women after being exposed to children like Kate try to have another. But I have noticed the child they usually have is anything but sweet. Hmmm, don't tell Kathy.
I have an Andrew in the family and Jack is my son's name, so I like both names. Jack is a powerful name and it has very good psychological feelings associated with it. It is the most common name for a male hero in a book. But not Honey if a girl? I am so disappointed. Maybe Nevada or Trixie? Those are some of those dubious names too. Isabella doesn't sound good to me for some reason and it does sound a little too much like yours, at least to me. Victoria is pretty, but few people call a girl Victoria if they can shorten it to Vicky, and Vicky can be a bad name too as it gives off nasty feelings for some. I will see if I can find the ...what people think of your child's name book for you. It is not meanings of names, but what people think of the name when they hear it.
Mom might bail on you as a sitter, but I think she will not as it opens up a door (or keeps one open) to control things. She seems that controlling type to me, and I doubt she would cut ties to her grandchildren so easily, and for the ongoing emotional control/guilt reasons as well.
Now does your pregnancy seem more real since you saw the baby more on the sonogram?
Freaky when parents talk about real things, like sexual matters. Kind of weird isn't it? And, I am sure some of what mom is saying is simply exhaustion and being worn out from all the recent trauma and drama. It is one of the most stressful things and she will not be herself, if she follows the usual pattern of loss, for a good two-three months.
Dr b's family sounds very nice, and not all boys who stutter have emotional issues. The processing center for language in men is much less robust, which is why when men are trying to talk in social situations they often stutter. A neural traffic jam occurs. In a woman, the processing center is so large that rarely does stuttering occur except for emotional trauma. I do get what you mean about being jealous. You were emotionally abused and this subtle guilt and disapproval that you mom radiates can cause a child to feel very insecure and angry, yet feel there is no reason to be, all at the same time. Steven
Thanks Liz for the questions...I am in an all day required work training and will get to this tonight. Hopefully that is okay. I took a quick break to drop you a line. Steven
It seemed like the break to drop you a line was the only one I got yesterday. It was one of those days where there is no break.
You are right on I feel about the woman's choices. She could have returned, or said she needed to go back once she saw she was in the wrong neighborhood, etc. How do you defend the confused and babbling part? Easy. She was d/c intact and on her own self care. That was the formal assessment. Only a targeted evaluation, such as a Folstein Mini-Mental or other wise can determine that level of confusion. Many people under stress act odd. Maybe she was just odd, or speech impaired with few teeth? BotXXXXX XXXXXne is that you did nothing wrong as you are not he one who screwed up the chart or discharged her.
You had to call Rob about the baby. There was no other choice. Yes, it was scary and I know that the past hurts of losing the other baby really put pressure on you both emotionally. But you needed him, and that is his role. He was there for you and that is what mattered. I am sure he will be devastated by the no sex rule. That is going to be difficult for him at a different level I think. lol
Kathy sound like she has really be through it. We tried at one point to adopt a child from overseas but the money...the money is crazy and the red tape and fuss and everything. It was sad, but we just could not do it. I feel foe them. And now they have spent their savings and have not as many choices. But you know; they saved a life, and that is eternal, and priceless.
With you and this pregnancy there is no way we can tell if this child will be angelic or wildly bad. You just have to see. It is said that inutero behavior often show the genetic traits of the child. This baby seems laid back, no wild movements, kind of quiet. Sounds like a male, a thinking type personality to me.
I do not think I will be traveling to NY anytime in the future, sorry. I know there would be lots of people who need help, but there are many here too, too many to count and probably not even as healthy. There is a lot of insanity here as well. Although I think our hospitals are less chaotic.
Jack Ryan, (Yes, I know, tom clancey character) Rachel Kathryn the oldest and Nicole Lauren (nikki), middle. As far as commonality. In psychology only certain people can help certain people, and they tend to be six degrees of separation types. But then again, you married an engineer; I, a therapist.
I am in the camp that your mother is opinionated and will do as she wishes, right, wrong, kind or cruel. Saying she does not want to babysit; expected. She is all about her own stuff, not helping others, and you do not take advantage of her, ever. And considering that she ongoingly emotionally abuses you and that she also physically hurt you.., it would be nice as a repentant gesture to try to help you out. But again, with her issues I just do not see it. No matter how you act, great or rude or wonderful or distant you will not be able to alter her path. She is who she is and that fact looks to be, aside from God's grace, permanent.
What to say to Kim? Tell her you feel really sorry he is acting this way and that she must feel really hurt that he is acting like this. What is wrong with dr b you can say...your a great person; he does not know what he is missing. Just relate to her; that is enough.
Rob is in one of those awful situations where good stuff happens in bunches but if he acts on one he loses the other. He needs to do the best he can at both and if one is better, you both can evaluate the long term costs. I am the kind that is into stability and long term, utilities are that. Plus, there are family bridges here and that situation has to be taken slowly and carefully.
You didn't ruin anything. These men are just that, adult men.They seem pretty typically guy, talking about stuff that may or may not be fully true or possible. I know there are situational pressures here, but you did not break anything. The choices are theirs. Steven
Actually no, many health professionals seem to link up with engineers and math types. Not sure exactly why, but it is commonplace. I think the logic balances out the social empathy. Police are firefighters and the like, I think that hook up is mostly familiarity from the exposure to each other in the line of work.
I always knew you were a heroine. I may call you wonder woman. Steven
I am not even sure what to say to that. Steven