It seemed like the break to drop you a line was the only one I got yesterday. It was one of those days where there is no break.
You are right on I feel about the woman's choices. She could have returned, or said she needed to go back once she saw she was in the wrong neighborhood, etc. How do you defend the confused and babbling part? Easy. She was d/c intact and on her own self care. That was the formal assessment. Only a targeted evaluation, such as a Folstein Mini-Mental or other wise can determine that level of confusion. Many people under stress act odd. Maybe she was just odd, or speech impaired with few teeth? BotXXXXX XXXXXne is that you did nothing wrong as you are not he one who screwed up the chart or discharged her.
You had to call Rob about the baby. There was no other choice. Yes, it was scary and I know that the past hurts of losing the other baby really put pressure on you both emotionally. But you needed him, and that is his role. He was there for you and that is what mattered. I am sure he will be devastated by the no sex rule. That is going to be difficult for him at a different level I think. lol
Kathy sound like she has really be through it. We tried at one point to adopt a child from overseas but the money...the money is crazy and the red tape and fuss and everything. It was sad, but we just could not do it. I feel foe them. And now they have spent their savings and have not as many choices. But you know; they saved a life, and that is eternal, and priceless.
With you and this pregnancy there is no way we can tell if this child will be angelic or wildly bad. You just have to see. It is said that inutero behavior often show the genetic traits of the child. This baby seems laid back, no wild movements, kind of quiet. Sounds like a male, a thinking type personality to me.
I do not think I will be traveling to NY anytime in the future, sorry. I know there would be lots of people who need help, but there are many here too, too many to count and probably not even as healthy. There is a lot of insanity here as well. Although I think our hospitals are less chaotic.
Jack Ryan, (Yes, I know, tom clancey character) Rachel Kathryn the oldest and Nicole Lauren (nikki), middle. As far as commonality. In psychology only certain people can help certain people, and they tend to be six degrees of separation types. But then again, you married an engineer; I, a therapist.
I am in the camp that your mother is opinionated and will do as she wishes, right, wrong, kind or cruel. Saying she does not want to babysit; expected. She is all about her own stuff, not helping others, and you do not take advantage of her, ever. And considering that she ongoingly emotionally abuses you and that she also physically hurt you.., it would be nice as a repentant gesture to try to help you out. But again, with her issues I just do not see it. No matter how you act, great or rude or wonderful or distant you will not be able to alter her path. She is who she is and that fact looks to be, aside from God's grace, permanent.
What to say to Kim? Tell her you feel really sorry he is acting this way and that she must feel really hurt that he is acting like this. What is wrong with dr b you can say...your a great person; he does not know what he is missing. Just relate to her; that is enough.
Rob is in one of those awful situations where good stuff happens in bunches but if he acts on one he loses the other. He needs to do the best he can at both and if one is better, you both can evaluate the long term costs. I am the kind that is into stability and long term, utilities are that. Plus, there are family bridges here and that situation has to be taken slowly and carefully.
You didn't ruin anything. These men are just that, adult men.They seem pretty typically guy, talking about stuff that may or may not be fully true or possible. I know there are situational pressures here, but you did not break anything. The choices are theirs. Steven