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Hi, basically going back and thinking about the ways you could have responded to someone's negative comments or criticisms is part of learning, but to keep going over and over them is not healthy. Each experience you had shapes your future, and there are good ones and bad ones. In the past (and maybe now at times) you focus on the negatives that play a role in your present day life. You have done well learning how to use self talk and reducing anxiety, now you need to be able to say "stop" when you focus too much on the negatives in your past and think about the positives in your life here and now, look forward, not back.