So far so good, thank you. Ok, one thing that is constantly bothering me is; I flew to Bogota Colombia with my daughter to obtain a fiancee visa for my colombian fiancee. While at the hotel she left the room one night after our rejection, she said to get some fresh air. She came back barely being able to walk and went straight to the bathroom. I knew she had sex and I confronted her. she said no no no, it is just my period and I do not feel well. She immediately went to bed after the bathroom. I confronted a staff employee the next day who said she had sex with him the first night, but she was down stairs talking to him when three men walked in and she went to the room with them. It was a big blow up and I "cried to her" what was she doing? I was there for her, she did not need to do this stuff anymore, if that be the case!!! The day we were leaving she was the last to walk out of the hotel to the taxi and kissed me, I heard the male staff go eeeeeeewwwwwww,....I told her what "otro vez?" (another time?). I just forgave her and forgave her, saying that I have always dreamed of having someone just like her, that she was my angel from god!!! We met in March of 2010, met and had the best sex in the world the next month June of 2010. I immediately moved for a visa and our visa appointment was in March of 2011 when she slept with these men. In August of 2011 I married her,...I was upset with her that night because it seemed like she was flirting with everyone. I told her, and she stopped the wedding and we went home. She told me that I had ruined the wedding. We went on our honeymoon to San Andreas, and I can swear that she slept with the hotel owner, but I cannot prove it. I confronted her over and over about all these things and she told me to just have confidence in her. I reminded her about Bogota, she said that was Bogota, that she doesn't have contact with any of these men, that she was never with another man, that I could have confidence in her. I flew back to the United States, and then flew back in December of 2011. She changed, she was different, she wouldn't kiss me or hug me or anything. I asked why I flew back to be with her. I asked for a divorce, she agreed in a snap and had an attorney at the house the next day. I flew back home having lost the most beautiful angel in the world that I always dreamed of. But she kept emailing me for money saying her daughter is worried about rent, about food, so I agreed to send money every two weeks still, $250. She asked for $1,800 to get breast implants redone. I told her that she wanted all the benefits of being married to me, but agreed to divorce me so fast, wtf?????????? She told me she still loved me, that if I could just change and be a man with more confidence and not jealous all the time. that she still thought of me as her husband, and that maybe some day we could make it work. I hired an investigator who found her sleeping
with other men in Colombia while emailing me and saying all these things. Neighbors told the investigators all the local and "foreign" men that came and slept with her! The investigators pulled a DAS log of all the men that used her name and address to customs. This is the log; Orlando Arana-Iriarte, U.S. passport, dates June 5-11, 2011 Angel XXXXXXXXXXX U.S. passport, dates June 20-27, 2011 Wedding August 19, 2011 to Tim (but not real)(a scam) Tim XXXXXX, U.S. passport, dates August 16, 2011 through September 1, 2011 Steve XXXXXXXXXXX, U.S. passport, dates October 12-19, 2011 Tim XXXXXX, U.S. passport, dates December 6, 2011 through December 15, 2011 Power of attorney signed for divorce December 14, 2011 Richard XXXXXX, U.S. passport, dates December 27, 2011 through January 3, 2012 Divorced January 7, 2012 Richard XXXXXXX, U.S. passport, dates March 16-21, 2012 Aaron XXXXXX, British Passport, dates April 5-13, 2012 Aaron XXXXXX British Passport, dates May 26-31, 2012 So, I am beating myself up.....why didn't I walk away and leave in Bogota? Why did I forgive her? I could have just walked away right then!!! She flung her arms across me and kissed me and held me tight and I was so in love that I forgave!!! I was and am such an idiot!!! Why didn't I press and question her more everytime I saw her with a man alone???? Why why why did I not walk away sooner??? Why am I so stupid? Why was I so in love with her that I let her do these things? do these things in front of me and then forgive her???? aAAAAAAAAAAhhhhhhhh!!!! Yes, it hurts very much. So, when I think of these things,...I can't believe I didn't do anything, why I didn't just walk away,........why didn't I do that!!!!!!!! So, I am just constantly torturing myself with these questions. I wish I could go back in time and react differently. I wish I would have walked away. God should have made a time machine for people like me, huh???lol!!!;~) I don't know what my question is, just that this is what I am going through.