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What happened during/after the camp that you sent him to?
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It is a boys summer camp in Wisconsin and there is no electricity. My son returns from camp, begins school with a laptop and picks up where he left off.
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Internet/computer addiction is identified as a real addiction. It's generally treated using multiple approaches 1. Limiting Internet use 2. Involving the teenager in other activities and social relationships 3. Addressing any underlying issues that may be contributing to the need to escape (divorce, move, death, difficulty in social relationships just to name of few of the many possibilities) 4. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to examine beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors toward internet use and other situations contributing.
Have you tried to limit his computer use (rather than just cutting off) and how did that go?
Is there any major change/loss/difficulty that he is facing?
Does he have social issue?
Here are some links regarding CBT -- www.mindovermood.com
There are also some therapists who specialize in internet addiction.
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Then is sounds like he is not developing friendships at school. That might be the issue to address. Even if he were playing video games in person with other boys from school, that would be a huge step up from playing with people that he's never met.
Does he see that there is an issue or does he think everything is OK?
That is an usual challenge --he's not going to be able to relate to college students, and he's going to have difficulty with peers his own age. One of the difficulties of being so intelligent can be the belief that one has accurate self knowledge. I'm guessing that he also has trouble adhering to limits you set because he thinks he's more mature/grown up that he actually is. It's easy to confuse intelligence with maturity.
I normally don't recommend therapy for teens who are unwilling to go, but maybe you can look for a therapist who is particularly talented with working with teens --I've known some who can get the most difficult, most defensive teenager to open up and talk.
What city/state do you live in? I can certainly give you a starting point if I cannot recommend a specific person.
I don't personally know any therapists in Florida.
There are 7 pages of therapist profiles listed on Psychology Today, here is the profile of one who specializes in addiction:
He sounds like he works with adolescents and specifically mentioned internet addiction. He also offers a free phone consultation.
You can look at the other profiles by going to www.psychologytoday.com and inputting your city. I looked through about 3 pages and there are others who specialize in addictions, but I didn't see them mention internet or adolescents --but you still might find a good choice among them.