Hello! Please remember that my response is for information only, we are not establishing a therapeutic relationship.
More important than therapeutic modality is having a good working relationship with a therapist --- a good fit , that is. Hello --
I've had very little.
Cogntive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is good for anxiety issues.
but i know its time.
ive heard that.
i should have a male or female or does it matter?
i've been to a MTF
she didint do much.
was a waste of money and time.
Not all therapists are good therapists.....
It should not matter if they are male or female.
But --if you have a significant issue with one sex or the other--sometimes it can make it more challenging, or allow you to face those issues.
i'm not even sure what the goal would be.
Since you've already had a not great experience in therapy, you might want to do several consultations with a few different therapists.
part of the problem is i already know what i "should" be doing
Trying to set a goal could by the "measuring stick" you use to see what it's like with each therapist --you can get a feel for how they would work with you.
We often know what we "should" do, but don't always know what blocks us from doing so ---
heres a question - do Therapist get therapy ever?
Sure --in fact, it's often a training requirement of some graduate schools. What makes you ask that question?
i duno, to see if they practice what they preach, or rather know they cant help them selves.
IE if most therapist have had therapy, then there is rason to believe it works.
Try not to lump all therapists into one category --there are some excellent therapists and there are some lousy ones, just like any other profession.
I can't say i know anyone who has benefited from Therapy, but i dont go around asking.
And some just average ones :)
so, CBT would cover my bases?
It's not a subject that many people like to discuss ---
i assume the over all goal is to lead the patient to draw their own conclusions?
and make a choice
CBT is active, directive, and you need to work between sessions. Some people don't like it because they prefer their therapy to be more non-directive, less structured.
i just dont get the over all goal, whats the benafit to talking to a therapist when i could talk to my cat, or a wall?
what type of work?
i guess it all seems abstract to me.
Usually in the form of experiments ---in CBT you identify your beliefs, see if they are "working" for you, if the answer is "no," you form a new belief and "test" it out in real life to see if there is truth to it or not.
A cat can't help you with that. ;)
hes proven to be bad at it.
Yes, I would recommend a dog --more empathic! I'll give a very oversimplified example.
i find it odd that many of the ppl i know, dated etc have all had psyc degrees, but are all messed up them selves.
i'm a cat guy -=]
If someone's belief is "No one will talk to me."
We would look at the evidence both for and against that being true.
And come up with a more balanced belief (assuming that's off balance) that incorporates the truth of both sides
So maybe like -- "When I am friendly people talk to me, but when I am in a bad mood I stay away from people"
what about past issues -
thats more up my ally.
can a CBT help hash that out?
Yes. Our core beliefs, most deeply held beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world, come from significant past experiences.
You can't understand the present without considering the past.
i tend to live in the past -
and it always f**ks me
It's a myth that CBT therapy doesn't do that.
not sure if that makes sense.
im always several months ro years behind
and i rehash stuff in my head to the point where it cripples me moving forward.
Sometimes very distressing or traumatic experiences can do that ----
other than that, im fine
Yes, our thoughts can drive us crazy ----
do some CBTs do weekend work?
and do they take calls etc
Some people work weekends. Each therapist should tell you upfront what their guidelines are for taking calls between sessions.
You can look for a therapist here: www.psychologytoday.com
Here;s another good site: http://www.nacbt.org/whatiscbt.htm
Can I answer any final question for you?
no, i'll look into a CBT.
OK, take good care then!