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Hi Dr. Rossi.
I noticed on another site that you read tarot, am I correct?
I mean I was about to be connected to you for that.
Okay so I'd like to get a reading on a situation I have.
I do use the tarot and I-ching to look at what energies are influencing a person's life
I have been seeing a married man for about 4 years. I am very much in love with him. He tells me he loves me.
He has just moved out of his house within the last 3 weeks, and has gotten separated.
The thing is he says he needs for me to give him space so that he can figure out his life.
He's split up w/ his wife? Where is he living now?
I am having a hard time not feeling rejected. he has been not just my lover, but also my best friend, and I miss him very much.
he is living with a friend of his, in a town an hour away from where his house is.
He lives 3 hours away from me
What does he mean by space? No contact for a while, no sexual intimacy, etc?
No contact for a while, I guess.
Like he needs to clear his head.
What about a specific time line? Did he clarify this w/ you?
I last saw him in February. He is a professional baseball scout and travels all the time.
He said he would be in touch once a week for sure to let me know how things are going.
Is he keeping his word?
Other than that, no time line, just that he doesn't know which way is up, and is in a very bad place.
keeping his word to be in touch? Yes. We talked yesterday, he said he loves me and always will, but just needs space.
Do you know if there is contact w/ his wife after they separated?
I do not know.
But he does talk to you at least once a week?
I know he has told her he is not in love with her anymore, and does not want to be in the marriage.
How does he sound to you when the two of you speak?
He is a little depressed...his father cheated on his mother long long ago and then married the "other woman" - I think he thinks he is letting a lot of people down.
And also stressed.
No children. I am divorced and have two children.
You wanted to see what energy the Tarot would pick up on to gain clarity into the situation?
I just want a chance to be with him.
All right. Give me a moment to deal and read the spread. I can post to the info under this thread. You can still reply even when I get out of the chat mode. Is the chat screen jumpy on your end?
so you want to close this now? and you will alert me when your thoughts are ready?
Ok. I will get out of the chat and you'd get a notice in the email that said I'm out of it. Once done w/ the reading, I will post it to you. Give me about 10 min.
ok. thank you
This is based on the horse shoe spread and addresses what may be influencing the situation.
At the moment- 9 of Pentacles: this may relate to a concern of his about tangible/financial obligations that he has towards his wife. This card generally would imply that she may be asking him for many things for her own profit/benefit. The card could also relate to his concerns of his own livelihood hence forth.
His fears 10 of Wands: fear of too many responsibilities (feeling as though he's bitting more than he can chew). But, these are temporary.
Outside influences Six of Cups:the past and unresolved issues/memories are influencing his emotional self. Yet, there are also some positive memories that he can learn from and apply in his own life at the moment. This would apply to letting go of fear of what others are thinking. It is his life to live. He would benefit from thinking out of the box and not see things in all black and white.
Near Future Knight of Pentacles: Successful outcome for him of his dealings in regard to finances/property (anything tangible) The need to take a practical approach in managing his resources.
Possible outcome Seven of Swords: In order for him to move forward, he would have to incorporate the energy of both his emotions and his logical mind. By using diplomacy when dealing with others, he can push through. This card also cautions that he would not want to over think things but also listen to the advice of others whom he's close to. Page of wands: He can move on and pursue the relationship with you as the wands suite of the tarot indicates growth and onward movement. The relationship in a sense will provide a new beginning for him (opportunity) to grow as an individual.
Since he had asked you about some time, you'd want him to specify how much time does he need and if he expects you to do something meanwhile i.e. determine for sure that you want to proceed w/ the relationship, any concerns of yours about possible relocation, putting your own social/work affairs in order before the next step, etc. If he says, he only wants you to wait, let him know that you'd like to have a time frame in mind. Besides talking on the phone, see if he'd consider talking on skype via web cam.
Yes, the relationship can solidify after some time (after he takes care of what it is he needs the "space" to do). Perhaps he had asked for this "space" in order not to overwhelm you in some way.
I though that he had asked for space and for you to wait for him meanwhile. The cards indicated that he's preoccupied w/ things at the moment. As he sorts through his affairs, he can become more involved in the relationship that the two of you had started few years back. Now that he's separated from his wife, the need for secrecy won't have to be there anymore.
It shows that he's ready for a new beginning. After he figures these "burdens" of his, he can have a normal communication/relationship.
The cards won't show specifics as to when the two of you will see one another. It showed that the outcome of this can be positive (as soon as he figures his business/financial dealings. From what you're saying, he is working on this now) That was the predominant energy that showed up. The Ten of Wands card indicated that and, if you see the image, it shows someone carrying a large load.
When two individuals love one another, the children should not be a factor that would prevent them from being together and making a life together.
He may have asked for "space" sensing that you too are stressed out at the moment.
The Star for you indicates that you have some creative ideas in place that can help you get out of this financial funk. There may be options that you've not yet considered and these relate to some sort of creative energy that you've used in the past whether it is selling artistic things like jewelry, children's or womens clothes, etc. any kind of venture that you would not need an investment to start like selling on half.com or ebay.
Seven of Pentacles- This situation is less dire than it seems on the surface. Your worries can affect those around you (most likely him as he's in a similar situation) You'd want to be proactive- consider all different options; perhaps write a list today after a brief meditation which, will allow you some clarity over this.
Possible outcome in regard to the relationship - The Magician: positive outcome is possible through mutual effort after he has sorted his issues and you've addressed your own individually. This implies that you would have to remain optimistic and positive because each of you feeds off of the other person's mood/energy. Try not to project your anxiety or fears onto him (sometimes it's done without you being fully aware)
Mistakes do occur in relationships. These issues can be worked through. The tarot shows the present energies and on his part that he's preoccupied w/ his finances and how to structure his life hence forth. There was an indication that things can progress in positive way for both of you.
If he is talking to you and had confirmed his love for you, he's most likely not obsessing about what you've said.
You've opened few other threads and this morning I posted back to you on one of them this -
this is what came up in today's spread -
Presently- Moon: a sense of confusion as a result of having to face his past actions and their outcome. Feeling as though he's in a dark place and not knowing how to pull through. Having doubts about his ability to make a firm decision to do what should be done. In order to make progress, it would be essential for him to face his fears and doubts. After he sheds this anxiety, can he make a move forward.
Desires/wishes -Ten of Cups: The desire for genuine happiness, peace and harmony is there. It shows that it is possible to have a positive and fulfilling relationship w/ you.
The Unexpected development- Ace of pentacles: Still a long way to go before finalizing his financial obligations. Concerns about material circumstances are becoming more clear and defined.
Immediate possible development- Two of Swords: His inclination at this time to hide from others (you) and his emotions. He is afraid of change and because of this, he believes that he's stuck. Still feels at a cross road only because of his indecision.
Possible Outcome-Queen of swords: on your part the need to exercise patience and strength at this moment. Meaning- addressing the anxiety level that you're feeling as a result of his distance. It also is a card that suggest that you stay assertive in letting him know what you want.
It is as though he's afraid to allow himself to be happy with you because he feels guilty and concerned about his family- as though he's punishing himself. But life has ups and downs. He had decided to move out and to leave his wife. It is a decision he has to live and also face his obligation to you.
The cards portray the energies that influence the current situation. How each person handles their part in it, is what would lead to the outcome. What keeps coming up is that he must put in order his monetary concerns, deal w. indecisiveness rather than hide from his emotions and from you. There is an indication that the relationship can have a future once he is truthful with himself and you. One other issue may be a pending divorce (he may not have yet pursued this, and is something that would definitely be affecting how he is doing now and his interaction with you) .
If you had not heard from him this week, you may send him a text just to say "hope you're well" or, "hope things are well on your end."