I am sorry to hear that the counselor you saw felt that the services here were not for you. I would think that anything you felt was helpful and made you feel better would be alright, as long as it did
not hurt you. But that is completely up to you.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I enjoy talking to you a lot and am always glad to hear from you!
Having a social life is great, but it is often only a sign that you are a healthy individual. Social lives to do not take care of personal problems. And your feelings about your night supervisor can be dealt with only by talking about them. When something bothers you at work, it is natural for it to spill over into your personal life. People cannot just shut off their feelings once they leave work, especially when something bothers them at a personal level.
Your schedule makes it hard for you to have a normal social life. You work a schedule that is opposite of most other people. While they are at work you are home or sleeping
. When they are home you are at work. It is common for those working night shifts to experience trouble in their social lives and difficulties with coordinating their schedules with others.
In order to develop a social life, you have to allow for the difference in your schedule. That means that you can only do so much. You can maybe do more on your off days, but even then it is hard. You might want to try to do one thing during the day once a week if you can find something that appeals to you. Maybe a reading group, a hobby, or try volunteering for a few hours somewhere. That way, you can meet people and develop friendships. It can also boost your self esteem. When you help others, you feel good about yourself. And that will help you with your night supervisor. You can also chat on line with someone. That may help you feel connected and you won't have to go out to do it.
To stop thinking about your supervisor when you get home, try occupying yourself. Have something planned will keep you from focusing what happened at work. Also, keep trying to work on your self esteem. Even just a little bit will help you cope with the kinds of things your supervisor does. Because he tries to make you and others feel bad about themselves you end up feeling down and on the defensive. As a result your self esteem takes a hit each time you deal with him. To counteract that, you need a boost to help you see that what he says is not true. Getting out and talking with others who are kinder to you helps that.