I will read the articles.
I have further question that is really really important to me: If I always think positively and apply a positive scenarios in my life, wouldn't that be a dangerous thing in situation like my study and career? Lets give you an example; My best friend X is Pessimistic person, he always puts the worst scenario and then work on it, I always reassure him to be optimistic and to look for the positive side, HOWEVER he is smart and his pessimistic thinking always result in excellent outcome; for example if he is to study for the final he puts (or seem to put) the worst scenario that even though there is one month left to the exam he thinks like this: the time is really limited and I have to work really hard to finalize every thing early otherwise I (him) will be running behind and I will get bad result, etc.. (even though he is an A+ student and he never EVER had bad results). so he puts himself in a stressed position and works on the worst scenario and I feel pity toward him but he manage his study plan with fear and negative thoughts regarding the outcome, and after the exam is done...... taraa A+!!
On the other hand, Me, although I have a lot of negative thinkings occupying my head. In the situation above I always put the BEST scenario, that for example since I have one month left to the final exam I have plenty of time that I can finalize things easily and fully, I reassure myself that it's doable to get A+ and not to stress
myself, I really think positively about the outcome.. not just that, I actually reassure my friends who seem to be depressed (yet A students) to take it easy and to think positively etc.. BUT this never worked!! EVER!! ALL the optimistic scenarios I put FAIL.. and after the exam, welcome the D!!
I'm confused, I applied the positive thinking techniques before and it works perfectly. But in studying thinking positively never worked for me! As I mentioned, I tell my pessimistic friend to be positive and finally he gets the pride and I don't..!!
Your help with this regard is greatly appreciated Kate,
Thanks a lot,