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Hello Marvin! It's great to hear from you.
I was taken back to read that you and Eve are no longer together. Last time we spoke, you were getting engaged. What has happened since then and how did the two of you get to this point?
I am sorry to hear that, Marvin. It sounds like Eve is responding in a dysfunctional way to your relationship, maybe because of the stress she has been through or because of the personal relationship issues she talked about from her previous marriages.
To have cease and desist order on you then sit outside of your company watching your employees is very odd behavior. Although people often act in strange ways when under a lot of stress, it is not a good sign that she is filing legal actions against you then hanging around. It could be that she is trying to control you in some way or she is trying to see what you will do, maybe as some sort of test.
Regardless, her actions are overboard and have to be affecting any future you may have together. Legally, you must obey the order against you so you cannot approach her safely. And even if you did, you may not be able to get a good response.
At this point, I would recommend therapy. For you because of the stress and help with how to respond to her behavior. For her to work out whatever issues are causing her to react this way. Her behavior is beyond the normal reactions most people have so it sounds like there is something more there than you should try to take on and address yourself.
If therapy is not possible and you don't get back together, you may want to consider talking to an attorney as a protective measure to be sure she doesn't try to do anything to harm you further. Her behavior seems unpredictable so protecting yourself is a priority.
If you feel you cannot trust her not to hurt you in some way, (I'm assuming that is the issue since someone suggested you take a camera with you), then you may want to meet in a more public place. Even if she wants to meet you in an isolated place, there is no reason to risk anything just to do as she asks. If it's important enough to meet with you, she'll do so in a public area. Then you can determine if it is safe enough to meet again.
Contacting Eve would be nice, but it all depends on how you feel about it. If you feel you want to, then by all means do so, as long as you feel nothing worse will come out of it. It's when the bad outweighs the good that there is reason to back off. But it has been a while and she may be adjusting to things a bit better so if you think it's worth it, you can try it.
Ok, I understand. Thanks, Marvin!
Yes, it would be. It was a very nice gesture on your part to do those things for Eve and it would foster good feelings for her to see that. You may want to show her in a lighthearted manner so she does not feel that you expect her to be grateful (which of course you don't, but she may interpret it that way). When you show her, talk to her about how much you enjoy the ideas she had and that you find all the improvements to be great additions to the home. I think that will give her the chance to not only be reminded of all you did together, but how special you are to her and how well you treat her.
I agree! She is missing a lot by not being with you. But for some reason, there is something that is keeping her away. Once she sees that you did go ahead with her wishes, she may change her mind. If she does not, then there is something going on with her that is blocking her from seeing the relationship as a priority. It may be an issue with her disability or something else.
If you are able to reconnect to her and she does not want to come back to the relationship, then you may need to ask her about it to find out why. Hopefully, though, she will see that being with you is what she wants and that you care about her. But if it does come to that, you and I can talk about how to approach the subject.