Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
how has it affected your current relationship.
I am glad you have reached out here and have some insight into what is going on for you. A divorce or any ending of a relationship can be very traumatic and we all need time to heal.
You connected with this woman because you needed that connection and that is okay.
I do believe there is a way to find yourself and not abandon her either.
If it is communicated to her and how you are feeling and what you need to heal and move on, i think progress could be made.
and how did she respond to it?
That is a good thing to hear...so is there a way for you to leave and take care of yourself and feel okay about doing so?
you may also consider getting into some face to face counseling so you can deal with the grief and loss
and maybe not have to leave fully then but a slow down of sorts...are you living together?
I tend to agree with you and you sound like you are pretty clear.
you need the time to take care of yourself and let yourself work through this anger and depression
I think it is a great plan and yes it will be hard and could increase your depression but if we get you set up in counseling then we at least know you have the support
I can help you locate
someone if you need help
I must say you have already taken that step and reached out here which is wonderful.
I think the pastor is a great start but I believe you will benefit further from a therapist.
not that easy to get over it if you have fully processed it all
yes and the drinking was a way to avoid the pain and it only masked it and now you are left with all of the feelings
exactly. It is so much deeper than that. Infidelity not being with your Son...absolutely devastating. you deserve to get support and there is NO shame in that.
be kind to yourself
see it as a gift to yourself rather than something to be ashamed about.
it takes quite some time to get over betrayal
and "running" doesnt really solve it...it only delays
yes the rinning served you well then...nothing wrong with it but now as you can feel it is painful for you.
so you truly know what you need to do for yourself and there will be pain involved but you are in tremendous pain. you have suffered so much and been betrayed.
You deserve that safe space to explore it all and feel trust in yourself again and then trust in another...that takes time
yes it makes perfect sense.
so now it is YOUR time.
I cant tell you to leave or not...I can help you sort out what feels right for you.
I do believe you deserve the time and space to heal and however that needs to happen I support.
how are you feeling having reached out here?
There may be some technical issues..I am still her to support you. If you are satisfied with our work together please click accept and come back anytime.
Im still here.
That is a huge step for you....shows me you are on your way and you can do it.
beyond painful and her inappropriate behavior caused that to be...the split from your son
it is shattering to experience what you have.
you got married with hopes and dreams. had a son and then all ripped from you because of her infidelity
it will work out for you and you will feel strength again and that does not take away anything you are feeling now and the pain you have experienced
technical issues again.
is it kicking you on and off?
it was self preservation at that point...so lets do that now for you and i think it should be more than the pastor
can i help find you someone? you can still come to me anytime I just believe face to face would be so wonderful for oyu
please let me know how else i can support you