My adult son (28) has been going through an existential crisis for abut three years. The details are too long, but he has used up all of the money he had saved in order to basically do nothing. This does stem from a generalized anxiety
disorder and OCD for which he does take meds prescribed by a psychiatrist. He goes from friend to friend to live and just yesterday informed me he is moving rather far away to the place where be both had two years of stellar success and later, a complete meltdown. During the past two weeks, he had me convinced he was looking for an apartment not too far from where I live when in fact, he had this farther away option as his *1 choice all along. One issue is that he and I have always been close (not abnormally) and have shared what I thought was a really good relationship. He HATES his father to whom I am still married BTW and with good cause-too long of a story also. This does not really explain his pushing me out of his life, however. Why push away the one person you can count on?
I need to know how I live with the essential "death" of someone I knew who can sit in front of me and I no longer even recognize who he is. I am also grieving for the 'could have beens' since he is a highly intelligent and educated person. I cry a lot lately. I do see a psychiatrist/therapist ,but sometimes I need to talk at a certain moment. Add
to that, significant health and marital problems for me making this even harder. I have a lot to accept anyway, but how can a person accept a total life change in someone you love who has little motivation, when before, the person excelled at and enjoyed many things.
BotXXXXX XXXXXne- when do you let go and how do you let go OR do you ever feel comfortable letting go when an adult child is impaired in certain ways. I am aware I can only control my own behavior. Thank you. I am sure you sense the angst. Kathryn