Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.
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In reading what you have written it sounds as though your work revolves around the issues of Co-dependency----- Are you familiar with this concept?
This is often the case with many people who have a desire for a balanced and healthy relationship without becoming overly dependent or feeling fear of developing deeper relationships based on a pattern of poor or dysfunctional relationships in the past.
I am going to give you some helpful information in the following links and you can review and ask questions if needed.
I also recommend that people with these issues get involved in the CODA organization which involves support groups that helps you deal with these issues. Meetings are held all over the World.
Here is a link to the site: