Welcome to Just answer !
Well, i agree with you that the reason of your vaginismus can be physical such as genital herpes infection or psychological such as emotional traumatic life experience and abuse at the hands of father or both.
But , first of all i would liek to know since how long have you been having this problem>?
is there a sense of fear pertaining to sex which preceeds penetration making you extremely stressed out ?
I will get back to you once you reply to the above asked queries..
I have asked you some relevant questions so that i can evaluate your condition and then give you the best possible advise on the problem and how to deal with it.
So, kindly look at my queries and answer them so that we can go ahead with the conversation.
My questions are as below..
1) Since how long have you been having this problem ? was it precipitated by something or was it precipitated on its own?
2) is there a sense of fear pertaining to sex which preceeds penetration making you extremely stressed out ?
3) is vaginismus restricted to sex or does self stimulation or use of tampons also cause it ?
I am asking you these queries to confirm whether this vaginismus is primary or secondary and whether it is physical or psychological in basis which will guide us to a solution of this problem.
I shall be waiting for your reply..