my boyfriend of 4 years started taking adderall about 5 - 6 months ago. He has been asking me to marry him for several years and I finally said yes about 2 months ago. He was so happy and told everyone he could find even to the point of embarrassment. He, 2 weeks ago, stood in the kitchen and said "thank you for making me the happiest man on this earth, I never thought I could ever be this happy".
We went to a party that weekend at his families house and everything was great, he was affectionate etc. etc.
3 days later he sent me a text telling me he was unhappy and was moving out.
Some additional facts:
1. he has continually increased his dosage of the adderall and is taking at least 60 mgs daily and sometimes more because he kept getting new higher dosage prescriptions and was hoarding the unused ones. He became very agitated as the hoarded ones started to run low and he was going to have to go back to the max the doc said which was 60 mgs.
2. We had been fighting more lately because money is tight, he had hurt his neck was was going to the doc (vicodin, soma, MRI, then cortizone shot), my dad has Alzheimer
's, I am going through and IRS audit (a lot of work but no problems), yes we had been arguing more but then would pull together and talk about how great it was that we were pulling together rather than running away from each other.
3. in the last 3 weeks he had gone from arguing (normal) to rages, screaming in my face, screaming over the phone, the horrible looks on his face.... I didn't know who this person was.
I have 2 kids (12 and 16) and I told him he could not act so erratic around the kids or he would have to leave. I would not allow them to see that kind of behavior. He said no, no, I am just having a rough time so we would make up and be fine.
Then he was at his Mom's house because his Stepdad had become ill and he sent me a text telling me he was moving out. He came home for a couple of days and was cold as ice, fought alot, would not talk, all he said was "you wouldn't listen to me".
We have been together for 4 years and there have been ups and downs but this came completely out of the blue and I am wondering if all that mix of meds could cause it, is it just cold feet about getting married, did
he just suddenly wake up and say I have been faking this all along and I don't love her....
Any input would be helpful.