Hi! You know, to give you the best answer, I think I should ask you a few questions first that will help define the problem and the situation.
This is of great concern: the diagnosis is saying that they haven't found enough evidence to identify Bipolar Disorder specifically but enough bad behavior that may be cyclical to give it that diagnosis. You say he's had counseling. Has it been serious therapy?
Is he having counseling now? If not, when and for how long?
What does the therapist say about him? Or what did the therapist say about him?
How about in school, what do they say?
Has he ever been evaluated for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)?
I need to be thorough, so let's make sure there are no developmental issues:
Has he been evaluated as being higher than average intelligence?
Does he make friends easy now and in the past? Did he always play in age appropriate ways and does he have good social skills?
Does he tend to obsess on activities he likes and have a hard time stopping when it's time to do something different?
Does he have repetitive motions and movements? Does he also have certain habits he does over and over?bring his fingers to his mouth or make facial expressions when talking, when he's unhappy or angry?
Does he have a hard time relating to other people's feelings?
Any extra information that will help, feel free to share.