Hello this is Jean!
I'm glad that you finally heard something. He said he's in a "very bad place". One question I would ask him is if he's safe and if he's having any thoughts of self harm.
He's still not giving you much for information regarding the relationship, still keeps you wondering what's really up. How did you respond back to him?
Unless he tells you what he means by "bad place" or "don't know which end is up" it's all a guess. What do you make of it? Still a bit generic for you to figure out what's really going on. I can only imagine leaving his wife is a huge step, even if it's something he wants, it's still a big change. It's taken him four of his five years of his marriage to leave her in a sense.
He's gone deep into his "cave" to sort things out. Women are natural multi taskers, not so much for men. Concentrating on what he's done i.e. leaving his marriage and work demands is about all he may have room for. He maybe trusts that you will be there, knowing you will stand by him. However, I think you holding off on contacting him was good. He may not want to burden you with his struggle especially if it relates to leaving his marriage.
I will be notified when you are back on line-I'm glad for you that you heard "something" from him
I think it's okay to respond to him since he initiated the contact
Had trouble with cut and past. Add what you think feels right for you-trust that what you write will be the best you can give. I can imagine there is a lot of the "directionlessness" for you. That's why there is no right or wrong answer. You are doing the best you can with the information you have been provided.
Glad to hear your e mail wasn't as bad as you thought. The days probably seem long but like I said you will get through this. It's unfortunate that in this type of relationship there are so many sacrifices -can see why it would "chap your hide"-you could have used your best friend when you were struggling the most physically and emotionally.
I'm sorry- no response so far- especially after you put so much thought into what you wanted to write. I think your anger is warranted with what you've been through in the past several days-a girl can only take so much-and you have been patient and strong. Tomorrow is a new day- it's tomorrow where you are now- and you start anew.Keep on truckin!! Take care, yes get some rest.