I have a question about something that is happening in my family that is very upsetting. My parents babysit quite frequently for my brother and his wife. A month ago, my parents took their oldest child for a special week at Grandma and Grandpa's. She is seven years old. They had a great week. doing lots of special things. At one point during the visit, she (let's call her June), was misbehaving and my dad (Grandpa) tried to discipline her and told her she was not behaving well (he used a loud voice). My mom (Grandma) tried to soften things by telling June that she should stop being "naughty" as this was making Grandpa upset. They continued on and had a good rest of the visit.
While driving June back to her home, June mentioned that she felt kinda sad
because people were always telling her she is annoying and she wishes that they lived in their old house and she doesn't like her new home. I mention this because my parents noticed that she seemed sad. She is a very intelligent little girl, who tends to worry and think about everything a lot more than your average seven year old.
Anyhow, after this visit my parents noticed that June did
not want to get on the phone anymore and talk to them. My mom asked my brother what was going on with June. Finally, he recently told my parents that June was upset about something that happened during her visit. My mom thought it must be that Grandpa raised his voice at her. Instead it turns out June is very upset because my Mom used the word "naughty" in talking to June. Instead of my brother diffusing the situation by telling June how much my parents love her and what wonderful grandparents they are, he came back and told my parents that this was VERBAL ABUSE! And that they have to make it better because June does not want to see them again as she doesn't feel good about herself. I find this ridiculous and unbelievable! A side note of importance is that my sister in law does not like my parents very much, especially my mom. They have told Jade she has to sit down and have a meeting with my parents and talk about what happened. She, of course, does not want to come visit them.
I find this entire situation crazy and was hoping for some advice to give my parents on how to handle this situation. I am a parent of three children and I have disciplined them much more than just the word "naughty".
Thank you very much for any information.
Dazed and confused