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Well, it is really nice to hear from you. I was wondering about how we would connect...
Wow, I have to say that you have been through it! And, the teaming up with Bully Nurse, that sounded like a walk through on danger and incompetence and worry, but all on you as she seemed totally oblivious. How could she not know that certain drugs cannot be pushed through by an RN? And she seems blatantly oblivious, and worse, at least to me she seems unconcerned about her errors and behavior. Scary stuff this teaming process if the person you are teamed with is less than stellar.
Dr b and his car. I had to laugh. (I am a car guy to begin with) So, the Nissan has the same body as an Infinity, just a different engine and suspension. Well duh...some Porsche's have the same basic body as certain VW's but that does not mean that your VW is a Porsche. After thinking about him: I think he is really just a little boy personality in a man's body. He is actually sort of funny and pathetic simultaneously. However, with his personality and profession that would make him desirable to many women though. But nothing is going to help him with the red leather interior thing...gads.
Nice of him to drive you to your car but he sounds like he was speaking daffy from all the tiredness and worry and stress of the night. And, he now wants to date Kim? Either he is getting more desperate or he was just overtired. I will say that he treats you a lot like a trusted sister, really almost like family. That is a nice complement. Kim...I have no idea. Dr b seems more positive about her, and I get the impression the idea of dating her is growing on him but I am uncertain if he is really thinking of this or just shooting thoughts into the wind. Love connection? Nah, maybe desperation connection. Or fatigue connection. Steven
Thanks for the Mouse Saver info. That is great to know and depressing at the same time. Is everything going to increase in costs? How come things rarely go down? You know? I might be able to join Auto Club South as we have relatives there. So, maybe it might be worth the added expense of joining...even if I could, note sure these relatives would help anyone but themselves. lol
I will tell you what...the teaming issue might be good from a hospital standpoint, even a legal one, but from a number of other views, even the patients, wow...issues.
You sound like a pharmacy rep for propofol. Looks like bottled milk huh? Perhaps you can even use it on cereal. (stays crunchy even in milk?) Cheerios and Propofol? Hmmm.
You do have the personality to sell things, mini-vans, houses or whatever. I could picture you doing so. You like to convince people of things you believe in. People make a lot of money when the economy is solid...but nursing, we all need nurses all the time, good and bad times economically. You picked a good career in many ways.
The car sounds very boy racer...rather immature, from the color schemes to the story of why it is so awesome. I am not sure why you felt so odd with him. But he does like you, and he is an opportunist as we have said...plus his judgment is off from being tired. I don't think it will amount to a hill of beans really.
Dr a and his agenda. I always ask myself with him...what is he really looking to get? He knows you are not thrilled with him. He also does not want to be hated and dr b does, I am sure, convey that you do not like him. As a result he is going to offer some odd bits here and there. This is one of them. I would chalk this up to his insecurity and not much else.
His wife hating him? Most wives going through a divorce are not going to be nice and will say a lot of mean things. Telling others he is a lousy doctor is counterproductive to her. What about all that alimony? She doesn't want to lose out on that by making him out to be an idiot medically. Weird. Really Weird.
Kim, if she can remain relaxed and interested she may indeed get a shot at dr b. Then again, he may just be messing around with you and her. I would not put that past him to do as he tends to have an odd streak going with women, even nice ones from what I can tell. Steven
The annual pass does sound like the best deal. It is 800 dollars, but the saving exceeds the cost by a good bit. Thanks again. I will look into that.
You do not sound very thrilled with your current hospital, at least compared to what you were used to. I understand where you used to work, based on the hints you gave me, and the fact that I saw it on the news via the web. But in some ways this place seems even more clueless administration wise. It is as if they do not understand how to manage risk, and risk management is what health care tends to need, especially at the front door where you work. And, you are right; they have no idea what they have in you, or what you know compared to most, or your education. It is no wonder you surprise dr b so often with what you know. It is like they are used to hiring the dregs.
I still think you should sell pharmaceuticals. You make them sound so, well...nice. (really you do) Maybe you missed another calling in the business word. The pharmacy companies like female reps too and they consider (unspoken of course) flirting as a necessary part of the job....
Dr a's wife, I really doubt, unless she is a total fool (and that is possible I guess) would not go after his competency as a doctor, unless of course she is so hurt that all she sees is vengeance. Then, well; I get it. Does dr b talk to dr a about what you have said? I do not think directly, but men like to talk about things; like who do you think is good; who do you think likes to work with me, likes me etc. So, something about you has probably come up. I doubt dr b would ever say anything that would be directly harmful. He does not seem the type at all.
That is sad about the man who arrested. I would have hoped that he got out of the woods and stayed there, and that if he needed to intubated that a major medical center could figure it out. (It does show how good you all are though.) I had aspiration pneumonia. I was in good health and I didn't have a bad heart, and it was really rough on my body. I said after it happened that I understood why older people die from this.
Kim and dr b. I do feel that she should say no, if he asks; at least at first. It build mystery and makes him wonder why didn't she say yes. That is good for any man who is in a position of some authority and ranking. That actually is a good technique for her if she wants to improve her odds of having him become interested. Steven
As far as limited vs unlimited: You should contact the Just Answer site moderator to talk about your account. I am sure they can clarify things for you.
Even at over 1k it is probably a better deal to get the annual pass than to go through what I am now with the general reservation and deal sites, etc. Plus it would simplify things a lot.
His wife sounds really, really angry. That level of illogical action is usually only seen in people who are either really personality disordered (very) or someone who is just too hurt and angry, so much so that they cannot even see straight. Often that is the result of some drastically miserable stuff that occurred between them. I wouldn't even want to speculate about what that might have been.
We do see things exactly the same about the Pharm Reps. They are a trip aren't they? Except for a fee scale and a red light, they are pretty open about the sexual overtones. You sound just like our office managers when they (the reps) would come around. They don't fool anyone these reps, but the doctors often would be, I think just for the attention certain ones would give. They pay them a lot of money, almost escort wages for the good ones.
I had undiagnosed GERD. It was terrible one night and I upchucked in my sleep. Not pleasant. The results of that turned ugly. I was so sick I didn't know what to do. Two separate courses of Avalox finally kicked it.
Dr b better get his act together. He either asks her out or not. Playing with her is just mean. Maybe as a friend you could mention this, but then again, you do not need to be in the middle of this mess. Steven
You're like my own personal vacation consultant!
I hear you on the mousesavers thing, and I think I am inclined to go with the annual pass and use the one credit card, one person thing.That works very well, and is a very good approach. Thank you.
I can tell you really like to help on these types of things. I have to think up a career for you that involves nursing, vacation travel and planning. Maybe you could work on a cruise ship for Disney. Hey, don't laugh. Someone has to do it. And, I bet it pays well... and the park discounts! Of course you will never see your husband unless he comes with you...and of course you would not see your extended family, ever. (Hmmm, this is sounding better and better.)
Dr a's wife is an OT? That is usually a profession that attracts a fairly nice group of people. Most of the OT's I know are very nice indeed. But, maybe he did something really awful, or perhaps she is nasty. It is impossible to know from here, but my gut takes me to option A. And yes...educated men who confide in women often make moves on them. That is a fact.
Well, you got the image of the reps pretty down I would say. It really is the leg cross uncross thing. I also know that many of them seek to pick things off the floor regularly, and they are not buttoned up exactly. It is an interesting profession.
I did gag when I woke up, just not enough I guess. It was painful beyond painful, like swallowing Drano. Then a few days later I had pneumonia.
Dr b is not being very nice to Kim. I feel badly she is expecting him to act decently. I would ream him out, for certain. That is just low class on his part.
Kate: Grateful that she is like she is. My middle one is the same and has, as a 13 year old, piles of friends; starts her own fads and trends and couldn't care less what anyone thinks of her. She was like Kate was, socially, since she could walk. I think the socially secure ones act like this. I believe, with all that I know, that she is not only doing well, but great.
That added shyness is common in eldest girls and with some minor encouragement all works out. I really do not see any issues here. She is exposed to many children and seems very well adjusted otherwise. I also encourage parents to make certain that dad plays a big part of the encouragement as little girls learn much from their fathers in this way. But as far as this single incident, I do not see a lot of worries. She has many signs of independent thinking and aside from the expected shyness is running normal or even slightly ahead of the game. Steven
Thank you vacation consultant! I will keep this in mind as I through the process. I like that fact that you can keep it dormant, if you are careful, until it is needed.
Don't worry; plenty of Disney Cruises leave the port of Maryland. You can always move there. lol
True, as a pharmacy rep you will have no bills for a lot of clothing items and you can shop at Fredericks of Hollywood. This is looking better and better.
I would not worry about what Dr b said to you about Kim. He is the one who has to back up anything that he says by action. Trouble is, a lot of men no longer put much stock into what they say. They talk to talk. And, it does not sound like he is going to do anything with Kim except perhaps talk about it. If he thinks you want him to ask her out he may say that just to get you into a conversation. I am thinking more and more that he has zero intent to ask her anything.
I am not allowed to discuss anything about accounts so I certainly hope they can work things out for you. I will wait to see what happens here on this end. I am sure something will work out. Hey, how about that Mets game with your brother and father! That would have been outstanding to see. Steven
Believe me. I will jump on that rate as soon as I can. I don;t procrastinate much by nature.
Nausea has to be one of the worst experiences physically. There is so little that you can do about it while pregnant, and I remember my wife being pregnant with all three of them, but especially our boy, and being so sick...but somehow she went to work, Exertion made it worse and I really felt for her and I have so much pity for you as well. That sucks, so big time. Sometimes all you can do is cry, and that is okay, It does not solve anything true, but it is a vent and allows you to release some of that pent up pain.
I know you expected to feel fantastic about he licensing issue. It is wonderful, but you went through such a protracted period of time in stress that most people just feel numb and exhausted. I am sure some of what you are feeling now is about the stress that occurred It is important that you do not get on yourself to feel this way or that about what happened, but simply to accept what you feel at the moment. Now, you feel tired and sick, for multiple reasons. Do what you can now to take care of yourself. Rest if you get a second. Do what you can at work and know that the nausea and fatigue will pass and you will get your second wind and feel more hopeful. Now you feel like crap and that is pretty common. The hopelessness about getting through work as well. You will get through and as fast as this came on it will leave. It does not feel like that at the moment but it is true. Steven
I am not sure if what you wrote here was the huge entry or that is yet to come. This stuff is pretty significant though. The whole system that you work in is like an active mine field. Every day there is a potential to have something legal or similar brought into your life.
Here, an error by the nurse could have cost the patient much more than actually occurred. Yet, this nurse will not be defended in any way, nor will the system that is being used to coordinate the medication delivery be explored to make it better. Instead they will bag and tag her, and the doctor, doctor j, does not help matters one bit. Instead, he raises liability to a new high with this family. What else would they do/think when they they heard, point blank, this doctor stating that the nurse and the hospital are guilty of negligence? What a time of it, and you get the brunt of the family anger and the doctor yelling at you. Honestly there should be scapegoat pay for you. So, tell me about this big post... Steven
Wow, not having an identity at work is usually a bad thing, but where you are employed, that might work out, assuming you want to commit some crimes and blame others. They would never know who you are. But seriously, to not know your name, at all? Besides, don't you wear name tags or id? Isn't it rather obvious who you are?
Are you a visual clone of Coleen? For these people to not have a clue about you, that is inexcusable. And, this type of thing would make most people feel hurt, as if they did not have value. There are people who I have known who just do not get noticed in life, but you do not seem that type at all. Are people there that oblivious? This didn't happen at your last place did it?
You did a nice thing with Kim. I really do not see her being angry with you. Dr b is not a commitment phobe, he's just really jerky in this area. He has that sometimes male attitude that he is above needing to inform his "women" that he has not made a choice yet. I do not think he actually likes her all that much, but I think he also fears confrontation where he has to say he does not want to be with someone. Now watch this...he'll go on the date and absolutely love her. We'll see though. He is a hard one to read on this issue. But as far as Kim, you did a really nice thing for her. And you are so right. Kim: Let him sweat. He should have to wait, a long while too.
Wendy and Peter: Wow, your place has a lot of action, that is for certain. I feel badly for Wendy, but also for you. How on earth do you get in the middle of all of this stuff? Okay you do get information out of people, but that information is like spy level stuff and it puts you in a bad position, one where you could get blamed for things that don't work out. I am thinking that holding your ears and saying la la la loudly when they tell you things might not be such a bad idea here. Really, it is terrible how often you seem to be in the middle of this nonsense. You might not be noticed for your name by doctors or other nurses, but your loon magnet works well enough.
Happy Anniversary! Doing anything special? And did you make that parole thing up or repeat it from somewhere. Pretty funny.
As far as shifts: Wow, that was a managerial way to say we need you to stay where you are and not move. That is obvious. Getting night shift staff on is not easy for them, and as you are easy to deal with on nights, you stay. That sucks.
I do not think it has anything to do with Peter and you; it is about his need to have night staff and the fact that you have some tenure and he wants to keep it that way. Not good for you, and he sounds like he inquired about your due date simply as a way for him to judge your leave, and his impending night staffing issue. For him: This issue is closed I think. Time to look for another job after this baby is born. Really.
You know if you did the medication error that you would be in prison orange already. Wow, nothing happened to the other nurse? That is incredible.
I hope you have an easier time of it at work. You are tired, and deserve a break. It does sound like you made an in-road into the triage advocacy world. And, that would be good for you, as you have been in that other role far too long. Dr a: Well, I kind of hope that he is not on, but again, look at your other choices bedsides dr a. Yuk.
Michele needs to have you on the brain. Anytime you can bring the topic of working triage to her, do it, Even email is good. Steven
I am certain that having your name forgotten is at a personal level very disturbing. It implies that you are not significant to others. Now the fact that the opposite occurred at your other job is enough to know that this situation is not about you. It may be that you are part of the dominant culture at work and blend in, or it many simply be that these people are not really concerned about anyone except themselves, It is frightening that your ID tag is not read though. I'll bet your patients know you better than some of the staff. It is truly odd.
No matter how you got dr b to see that he was being rude, and needed to connect with Kim, one way or another...so be it. It happened. Good for you. At least he did something decent by agreeing to see her. And you do have a talent for getting the goods on people. You don't forget anything; you have a good sense of humor and you came from a family where you had to read people well to survive. Those traits add up to being able to move people emotionally and behaviorally,well.
At least your husband remembered your anniversary! And, chocolate covered strawberrys, especially now in this season are pretty good. The card being Disney was a nice touch too. Maybe he isn't all bad; right Liz?
So marriage is like a union agreement? Good thing I am from a union state with labor laws like your own. I get that joke. Now in a "right to work" State like Virginia, they may not get that joke. They don't have union anything.
That would be a lousy way to get a daylight job...but if it happens, it happens and is for you an opportunity. That is pretty Machiavellian; but hey. If it works...
I hope your night did go well. Steven
I am sorry to hear about your grandmother. This is a such stressor for the family and for you, and often these types of things create additional burdens for you in terms of relatives' behaviors and what you have to deal with. This cannot be easy and I am sorry for you. I am already seeing the relatives driving (maybe flying) in and being, well, themselves.
Dad's reaction seem pretty strong, and if he was close to her, and knew her since he was 15, this is a major loss for him. I think being emotionally there with him in all this is a good idea and will help him through this better. But I am worried that you will be seen as the competent one and roped into doing a lot of arrangements and similar. Perhaps that is not true, but I still get concerned about it. And, you expressing that you just can't deal with this right now might be a good hint that you really cannot. Just be sure to take care of you in all of this stress.
My wife had to find a black dress while 6 months plus pregnant. Good luck with that. She settled for a gray I believe. And, I expected the Kate comment. Which, by the way is not only a hurtful thing to say. It is good for Kate to be at these types of events, for her and others. It may sound weird, but doing so is look at the circle of our lives.
Yes, we do need to start a new thread. This one is now too long and hard to work with. Steven