From one mother to another you should never stop looking but you must be realistic and know that unless someone wants to be found it is unlikely that you will succeed. But people act in irrational ways all the time and come around when they find they find they have no support system. Because you stop looking doesn't mean she won't attempt to contact you. She may find that she has made decisions that have made her life very difficult and have a change of heart. She may not need intervention to know that she needs family. In the meantime you can't buy into the idea that because she is gone she will stay gone and she will need her family in the future. Impulsive behavior often leads people to experience regret and this may apply to her.
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Family history as to why I believe she may be bi polar....father's brother is bi polar and one of his sisters is schizophrenic. I think this episode was triggered because she was not going to graduate. She created a bogus report card and forged a lady's name then set up a bogus meeting for me to meet with this lady and her dean. She had no idea I would talk to this lady and find out it was a bogus report card. The night before the meeting she drove home in the middle of the night and slashed my tires. I have not spoken to her since. She has removed the battery from her phone so it cannot be found with GPS and abandoned her personal items in the apartment and was a no call no show at work and got fired. It was if she just gave up. She called yesterday after over a month but did not want to talk to me. She has gone out of her way to hide her location and block her phone call and it appears after all this she is mad at ME when I was going to this meeting on her behalf. She told my niece that she "didnt want to deal with me" when my only intention was to help her. Now she is threatening to never come back and I have no idea where she is.
I dont like this answer at all. I am accepting to move on.