Good Morning, Kate. I am starting to do alot better. I think I am finally starting to understand its not me. I am dealing with an individual who has no morals to speak of.
I need resolution to a couple of more things that came up. We have a roommate that lives with us. She is a very nice person. On Friday she was talking to me because she is going through some issues. In our conversation it came up that he (my boyfriend) had told her that he dates ten girls at a time and that I now about it but I am so in love that I will deal with it. Then he preceeded to tell her that he would leave me but I am so in love with him that he just couldn't hurt me that way. He really made me look like a weak idiot in front of her! I have heard in the past when other girls pressure him about being with them he tells them he can't because I won't leave. He makes me look like a fool in front of them. Why would he do that? I kicked him out before and Ive told him move and and leave and he says no I want to be with you. What is his problem? On Friday he came home late and wouldn't answer the phone. It really got to me because I can not stand to not have the phone answered and he knows that. I didn't make a big issue out of it because I thought it would just fuel his ego. Did
I handle it right?
On Saturday his brother and cousin wanted him to go out with them for a guys night. I told him go and have fun I will do my own thing and was okay with him going. The funny thing is he didn't go and didn't want to? Now he had the opportunity to leave and go and and choose not to. Why is that?
I haven't had sex with him in a month. I have complained and told him I don't feel loved. He will say don't worry we will have it tonight. The night comes and hes tired etc. Why does he play wih my emotions like that? I have decided to stop dicussing it with him because it seems like he uses that as a control thing over me to make me feel bad. If I complain and say anything he them knows he has me and hes able to withhold because he runs around during the day hooking up. I really need advise and help on this because this is the one thing that is making me feel the worst. Like I am not being desired.
Is this guy a narcissit or a player? He has real issues. Will he do this same type of thing to other women?
Kate I really need to know for my sanity that there is nothing wrong with me its him. I just got a big promotion at work which gave me a $5.00/hour raise, a company phone, and a laptop for home use. It also will bring me great commissions with a very stable company. He seems to be bothered by it. Why? Also, the first thing he said when I told him was are you still going to be in the same office and are you going to travel? Last night he was making fun of me over the computer. Shouldn't he be happy for me?